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I heard recently that one part of depression is feeling hope

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I heard recently that one part of depression is feeling hopeless, and that you find things to look forward to to help. After things have been so weird with a friend that helped me and my daughter move into an apartment, I realized today that my life is under my control. I make my own decisions. So I came up with a 5 year plan to help me get rid of my debt, pay off my student loans, and have some actual savings. I also decided that I need to stand up for myself, enforce my boundaries, and not let people try to manipulate me or guilt me into things. It's a toxic behavior that is apparently a massive trigger for me. Instead of shutting down and becoming a wreck on the inside, nauseous, diarrhea for weeks, no sleep, heightened irritability, and just overall freaked out, I need to stand up and say "This isn't ok. I'm not comfortable with that.". I am allowed to have feelings, and people who say they care about you, should respect those feelings. If they can't, then you don't HAVE to be around them. I'm not seeking happiness or wealth, I'm seeking peace. Inner peace, a peaceful life, just peace.

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jim111's picture
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Feb 12

Beautiful!
Good for you.
The main thing is, to stick with what you've planned out for you and your daughter.

I don't know how heavy your depression is. Or if your on Meds for Depression.
Changing your diet is a HUGE step to help raise your serotonin and dopamine levels.
Just like heavy people Wanting to diet and lose weight. Most don't stick to it and complain about it forever. There are things to help depression and anxiety sufferers.
Softer types if music. Staying away from bad news on TV. EXERCIZE is a big one. AND.....FOODS.
You can go in the net and see what foods are GOOD for you to eat. Certain foods add to depression. Others block certain foods that help depression. The diet is not unusual or all that different than what most of us eat. Good foods, beef, blueberries, fish. Bad, fast foods, mainly due to the types if oils they use. And Sugar... Very bad.
If you want to help yourself. Check it out. And try it for several weeks. Foods take weeks before you see/feel a change. Meds work fast.... But often in strange ways.

Good luck, God Bless. I think your daughter has a good mom taking care of her.
Stick with the plans!

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FreeingMy_30's's picture
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Feb 12

@jim111 Yes, I'm going to try my hardest to stick to the plan. I'm great at planning, not so great at following them.

It's not as intense as it used to be, I've been confronting my past, bit by bit. My diet is not what it should be. When I'm stressed out (and I often am), I don't eat, and I forget to drink enough. I am very overweight because of it. I used to faithfully do yoga and pilates every single day, but that stopped after a very abusive relationship I was in started up. It's been long enough though, I've dealt with some of the aftermath of that relationship and have been trying to ease into exercising again. Small stretching and pilates throughout the day. It is exercise, but I tell myself it's just stretching so I don't avoid it, lol. I've only just started listening to happy music again recently, and you're right, it really does make a difference. When I start getting depressed, all of my routines fall away and it just spirals. I need to be more diligent in preventing it from happening. I don't take any medications, I've never had the money. I have been paying more attention to the foods I eat though. I haven't any fast food in months, no coffee for almost 2 weeks now, I do have black tea every now and then to help get through the day after a rough night's sleep, I just need to start eating enough and going for walks.

Well, I did it. I stood up for myself to my friend as kindly as I could. I sent an email explaining how I've been feeling, that I am grateful for their help, but I am extremely with how much they're trying to push me. If they really care, they'll respect my feelings, right?

Thank you! I'm trying. I will do my best!

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jim111's picture
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Feb 12

Good, your in the right track. Now stay with it.

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