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So, I've been on a social networking site for a while. I hon

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So, I've been on a social networking site for a while. I honestly never thought of it as a way to find dates, just a way to connect with people, and I thought I had made a friend. But then he starting asking me when we can meet. I said after I get to know you better, make sure I can trust you. His response was that he wasn't going to wait very long and I should know that, since it's a dating site(condescendingly. It actually made me almost cry. I had spilled my guts about all of my traumas, and thought we had actually connected, and his response is "Well you aren't worth my patience.". Ouch.... I don't even use online dating sites... ****... This honestly triggered buried abandonment "you're worthless and don't deserve even the basics of common decency" issues. I was having a good day too. How do you guys pull yourself out of things like this?

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Jul 15

@pickone I'm not dating, I know I'm not ready for that. This site isn't a dating site, this person was just apparently using it for that. You're right, I trust far too easily. I hadn't thought of it that way, as something one-sided if they're not emotionally available. These are the kinds of boundaries I'm still learning about. I'm making progress in being more comfortable with having my own feelings, but I've never been good at filtering what I share. I'm tactless most of the time, lol. Not intentionally. And yes, I'm definitely still learning what my triggers are and where they come from, and am still towards the beginning stages of the healing journey I think, so I have no interest in dating right now. It would be nice to make some friends though...

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Jul 15

@pickone I love the special dark espresso chocolate. It's my secret favorite. :)

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@Living4Peace Oh, yum yum!........

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