I have been having a debate, Not here, about how we are not

myloveptk's picture
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I have been having a debate, Not here, about how we are not taught on how to deal or cope with lonliness. Dont get me wrong, we all feel lonely from time to time! We can be in a room full of people and still feel alone, true? The feeling of loneliness is something we all naturally encounter sometime in our lives. But theres a big difference in feeling alone and knowing how to be alone! Most of us have learned how to cope and adapt to loneliness when we have to but in general we seek out ways to resolve our loneliness. Very few of us have been taught 'how to be alone' or ' how to except loneliness'. In the debate, relationships(the need to be in one), was the main focus regarding loneliness. What do u think?

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Justwanttobeloved's picture
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Apr 21

I think that you're absolutely correct! There are a lot of people who jump from relationship to relationship to avoid being alone. I was once talking to a woman who was in an abusive relationship. I was trying to get her to leave him. Her reason for staying, "But I don't want to be alone". I told her that I understood, but then it's fun. You're the boss. You decorate how you want, you watch what you want, you go out when you want, you stay up as late as you want, ect...until you know how to be with yourself, understand yourself, and know and love yourself what will you be able to offer someone else? What will you take from someone else? You have to know your worth. That all starts with being okay with being by yourself. If you don't want to be with you, why would someone else?

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myloveptk's picture
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Apr 22

@Justwanttobeloved yes so true. we're taught how to not be alone(like being with others) more then how to be alone. And being alone is something we all should be familiar with. lol

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Justwanttobeloved's picture
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Apr 24

@myloveptk Right?! ;)

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