Feeling the pains of loneliness tonight (last couple of nigh

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Feeling the pains of loneliness tonight (last couple of nights). Not really sure what the point of my life is. I’m over 40 and have no children and no life partner. If I’m to never have those, what is the point? Without an answer to those questions, I am losing

What is the point?

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May 18

Have you tried going back 20 years in the memory lane and try to find the reasons your life turned out to be the way you described. Just like you, I'm over 40, I have a life partner, a child and still sometimes I wish my life were just like yours ... Some days I wake up and I wish I was single with no children. Makes any sense? I really don't know ... there's
no secret to happiness right?

May 18

"I think I need to do more journaling and possibly go back to school . . . I need to help build a community of support for other women with similar experiences. But for now, I'm still stabilizing and going through the mourning process."

I love all the layers in your heartfelt desires and journey. I had a few friends who have strong desires to be moms and a few to be married "again." God gives us desires and oftentimes we don't know the end of the story until we arrive at the end of the story. I love that you are being so vulnerable here and that's what we need today...more people being honest and not pretending "life's perfect...I'm perfect"

We all have at some level tend to harbor some unmet needs, unfulfilled dreams and/or goals. I'd like to marry again and thought it would have happened by now. BUT since it has not, I'm going to continue counseling and mentoring young girls so they don't travel down the same abandoned "road I did." If there is anyway I can speak love and truth into their lives, that's my greatest joy. I will be praying for you as you allow your heart to mourn. Again, I love your honesty!!! <3

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May 21

Hi there!

Thank you for sharing your heart, I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with this. It can be so challenging and painful to not have the things you’ve wished and hoped for. It can be hard to look at our current position in life and realize it’s not what we originally pictured it being. I’m a strong believer in “everything happens for a reason.” Just because you don’t have a life partner right now doesn’t mean that can’t change. Life has a way of changing so quickly…whether it be in a minute, an hour, or a day. I believe the MOST important thing is to be happy with yourself and who you are in life. A partner can’t bring you happiness. Babies and children won’t bring you happiness. True and pure happiness comes from within and being in love with the person YOU are.

I would challenge yourself to fall in love with who you are. I believe you’re a strong and compassionate person. I believe you have many wonderful traits that have brought joy to those around you. I believe you are gifted and enough. To answer your question, “What is the point?” The point I would say is to live this day with the knowledge of knowing you’re enough. Whether you decided to share your life with someone else someday or not, you are enough.

Please feel free to private message me if you’d like to keep talking. I would love to stay up to date on your life!

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