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In today's society, I find that when a man is damaged emotio

In today's society, I find that when a man is damaged emotionally by either depression or lonliness, people tend to precieve him as weak. Other guys may not take you seriously, or may even laugh behind your back. It seems like us men have the obligation to be strong and confident in order to earn our place in the eyes of men and women. For example, look at the guys who post here. I can honestly say they are nice guys, maybe too nice. That may be the reason why they were betrayed. It seems a woman really goes for the hard guys. I've read stories on here where they were treated like shyt, abused physically or mentally, but for some reason they seem to go back to them or give them another chance. Why? I don't know. Was it maybe due to the fact that they were viewed as manly? I find when a woman is hurt and broken, family, friends and even men will come to the rescue. In society It's acceptable for a woman to feel emotionally broken. Men will comfort you and protect you, because that's what we do. My question is, what do us men do? Do we need to stay in solitude until we feel as though we can be approved as somewhat normal again? I just find that a man is pressured into being 100% healed in order for the opposite sex to become attracted to us again.
What are your thought on this?

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May 20

There are a lot of lessons that we men need to learn growing up. Some lessons we get from our families, some from our teachers and coaches, some from our ministers, and the rest from trial and error. It seems these days that a lot of learning is left to "trial and error" as a lot of men don't get much handed down to them. I have had my share of "trial and error" learning in the dating world. I probably learned the most about being a man from a church singles group. There I learned a lot about being the man that my future wife would want me to be.
The singles group talked about character traits for men. It wasn't a talk about being a macho man. It was traits like taking the initiative, trustworthiness, integrity, courage, compassion, honesty, self-control and things like that. Although no man does all of these things perfectly - a woman knows when we are trying to do the right thing. They respect that. Women also have things they have to learn. A relationship is good when both people give each other some breathing room - and room to grow.
There are some great books out there on the subject. I also found a website that covers singles issues called Boundless.org. Good stuff. Good luck in your dating and figuring this stuff out!

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Walk.to.Happy's picture
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May 22

It is hard when you feel you are put in a position where you feel your feelings don't matter. What I'm trying to do is realize that, regardless who says otherwise or how others make you feel, you matter and no one should make you feel otherwise.

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JGuy's picture
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May 22

@Christine845 That’s well said. Thx.

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