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I am new to sg and really do not know what to say or do. My

I am new to sg and really do not know what to say or do. My husband is going through dementia and some days he is ok but others not here. I need help to figure out what is happening next. He is bed fast but knows me sometime. I am feeling lost and angry and to why this I'd happening.

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Feb 11

Unfortunately there is no way to really know what is happening next. You will need to accept that the times he knows you will become less and not to try to "make" him remember. This is not your fault, however it is your problem to deal with. The lost and angry feelings are normal. We are losing one who was support and now they become a burden and even hostile. It is the shock of this that has you scared. Try to learn about this. You can do that here and there are many to help. You can also go on line, get books, get counseling if you can afford it etc. Try to think of him more as a child from now on. You know the mothering feelings I am sure. It is when we give and nurture and know that the little one has not much to give us. Just remember, as he declines his ability to understand will be less, but his ability to feel will still be there. Try to just sit with him and communicate without words. He will feel your intentions.

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Apr 24

I am new to this sg myself. I tried communicating and reaching out last week but I’m not sure if I was doing it right I’m not familiar with it. Hopefully this one will come out as I need to reach out. I can relate to a lot of what people are saying on this site. My mother has been in a skilled nursing facility for two years now she had several falls And could no longer stay at home she had also several rehabs. I have one brother who lives out of state and is always traveling with his job so it’s just me. My relatives have flown the coop so to speak. My mother is very angry and was always a narcissist so to say this is been on Pleasant would be an understatement. I just started looking into meetings in my area I am hoping they will help. I try to see her once a week I can’t do more than that I don’t believe that my visits help her in anyway as she seems more angry when I visit her. She is very intelligent she emails me 10 to 15 emails a day pier it is hard to see somebody so smart with this disease. I feel resentful along with a lot of other emotions. I have to really start trying to detach my mother has been a widow for over 30 years and I have been emotionally supporting her all those years. Just wanted to share.

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