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Every post I read makes me feel like Im the narcissist or th

Every post I read makes me feel like Im the narcissist or the person with the problem. I feel like an imposter, in my last relationship and also this one. So I often pull away when I feel like something is "off". I feel like Im a placeholder until someone better comes along, or until they actually want to commit. In the meantime just to go through the motions of a relationship because people are lonely or something. Like Im an experience, or time killer. I just feel like I have no say to choose, because likely people are afraid to tell me the truth of what they actually want. So then really I cant actually decide, because people havent given me all the information. In the end Ill be disposed of, thrown away, whatever and get to feel abandoned. And thats OKAY but I need to know if thats where they plan to go so I can know what Im agreeing to.

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Jan 21

Sometimes I feel that way too. My ex-Narc says I'm unstable because I keep breaking up with him then go silent by not returning his texts, his phone calls, etc....I did that because the verbal abuse is awful and I shouldn't put up with that. But I look back and think maybe I was the narcissist. But someone posted a reply to one of my posts and said the difference is that I empathize - I care - I truly love and mean it. I'm sure that's you also. That's the difference - so you're NOT the Narcissistic one because you have empathy, you care and you truly love. Think about that. If you were the Narcissist, you wouldn't have posted what you posted. Hugs!

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Jan 22

Here are some great books I am reading: 1. "More Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie, 2. " Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Lindsay C. Gibson, PHD. 3. "Leverage in Death" by J.D. Robb. This last one is a mystery novel, I read for fun. The other two books are deep personal growth books. Anyone reading anything they are enjoying, or finding particularly healing?

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Jan 22

You may have problems or issues that should or need to be addressed, but that doesn't mean you are a narc.

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