Life theme of an Empath: Why do I try to help people? 1.Avoi

Life theme of an Empath: Why do I try to help people? 1.Avoid stress. 2. Heal myself by offering solutions to others with the same problems---a lack of ability to face ny own issues directly---a kind of trauma defense mechanism? 3.Isn't this trauma defence mechanism similar to that of narcissists, who ALSO cannot look at their own trauma? So the empath has an adaptation response to not be able to access their trauma in a way, by accessing it by proxy-helping people with similar issues. I find patterns in survivors of narcissism abuse, and I realize we have similar vulnerabilities----this inability to STOP HELPING, FIXING, CARING.... It goes so deep. For a while I completely stopped commenting, and this served an important role to help me break the habit of impulsively responding and trying to rescue others---which comes from a place of superiority but also a way to escape myself and the feeling of stress. I think a lot of parentified kids become empaths. And, if we dont look at this habit and burn out, an empath can become a "dark empath" an actual psychological term to describe empaths who behave like narcissists. There's so much nuance, and even reading about narcissism obsessively is a phase of healing but ALSO holds sometimes the retrauma of living through the things we went through. I believe in all of you. All of this was triggered, because recently I developed a crush on a guy, who is of course inaccessible to me ---abother pattern in my life----keeping myself safe by liking people I can never really get close to (he is a semi-prof; much older; others lived at a far distance, or would no doubt be returning to their coubtry of origin). So to avoid thinking about this guy, I came onto this website to focus on other people's issues. So Im sorry for constantly commentingon people's posts, helpful or annoying or self righteous---know it is a form of self escape and my trauma response; Sorry.