Not sure what this group is for but I would consider myself

Not sure what this group is for but I would consider myself a caregiver. I live my life trying to make sure everyone else happy. I do take time for myself though. I love helping people, that is what makes me happy. But I have a problem...I feel I am being to pushy with trying to help someone. I guess I feel like they don't want my help, which is fine. So should I just back off and let them come to me or do I keep letting them know I'm there if they need me and let it go? I feel like I'm being annoying.

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[2020]
May 17

I have this awesome friend who always aspires to help people who are down. But she demands they listen. And in the appearance of being controlling, they recoil. She'll figure it out one day. She's just trying to help.I wait until the right moment when I feel they can listen and are open. And I'll gently toss it out there, my advice, then back off and let them make up their minds if they want to agree. Sometimes they never want to hear. But that's their choice I have to sadly accept. Long story short, they have to want to listen. Otherwise it's a waste of everyone's time though you may have the answer. Or, maybe we just arent that right person they'll listen to.

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May 17

When I'm imparting my vast wealth of wisdom on someone ;) they're usually full of, "Oh, no, no. It's not like that, blah, blah, blah" and then I know I've sown a seed. They'll go away and think in retrospect. Then, they'll take what's good for them and leave the rest. After all, I don't really know what's best for anyone. I just have opinions, and you know what they say about them!

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May 19

@Daystar Wise Words!

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