Where is the pause button?

Isn’t it striking that whenever you scroll through social media the posts always seem to be encouraging you to try something new, to be thinner, to use this vitamin, to sign up for this diet program, to be more socially conscious, to be more involved, to try this type of yoga, to meditate, but only using the ____ method, vote for this person, don’t vote for this person, do this, not that, eat this, not that, accept your flaws, don’t except your flaws-fix them, change them!!!!! It is exhausting and it got us thinking, why are we always so quick to believe that in order to do better, to be better, we have to change ourselves? Sometimes, we just have to pause and evaluate, where are we in life and where do we want to go?

“Is there a panic button I can hit?
Or better yet, a button that will pause this whole scene while I figure out how I want to play it?
But no. That's not how it works in real life.”
- Catherine McKenzie, Forgotten

It seems in 2020, we have had a lot of time to sit and be introspective, it isn’t every day that you get to live through a pandemic that basically rewrites how you live you life, how you work, order groceries, send your kids to school, the most basic things we took for granted, like going outside, now requires a mask! But all those are outside changes, inside, we are still very much who we were when we shouted Happy New Year 2020! One of the biggest misconceptions or lies we have bought and swallowed is that we have the capacity to change on the flip of a dime.

“Sometimes getting to the other side seems impossible. You know there’s a way. You can actually see the steps in your mind – but it all seems out of reach. Pause. Relax. Remember to do what you can in the moment you’re in. Before long, you’ll arrive at your destination ready for the next challenge.”
- Lashawnda Jones

Change takes time, when starting something, say like yoga, you may not be able to even touch your toes, but do it everyday and touching your toes slowly becomes possible, it may happen on day 25, 200 or even a 1,000, because true change takes time. Change doesn’t happen in 90 minutes or in 350 pages like they do in films or novels. How are we supposed to know anything about ourselves if we don’t take the time to settle in, look at ourselves in the mirror and really get to know ourselves?

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
- Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

All of us have our flaws, our hurt, our addictions, our physical and mental health issues, we are often quick to judge, reticent to forgive…. However, what we think all of us on this site can truly say is, that we are all incredibly strong individuals. We don’t give up easily, we push ourselves out of bed everyday, we brush our teeth, we take our medication, we sometimes have to jump over hurdles that would make others weep in frustration and we do it every, single, day.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life

Take time this week to pause, to ask yourself, this week, this month, this year, what are the things I really like about my life, what are the things I can change, what are the steps I can implement to make a change? Focus on the steps you can take, not the huge goal you have set for yourself, that will take some time to reach, like the line at the end of a race. It is there, but slow and steady wins the race, slow and steady wins at life as well.

As always, thank you for allowing us to be a part of your day and your journey. All the best-SG

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