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What Do I NEED, Not what do I WANT

So often we frame our life in terms of what we want out of it, what we expect out of it, we rarely look at our life in terms of, “What do I need right now, in the next week, next month, next year, the next 5 years…?” It is a very different way of looking at things, instead of grandiose dreams we become more present, our answers are more done to earth, it can be that at this moment you need some food, it can be an amazing 5 star restaurant meal or it can be something more humble, such as a PB&J, it is about the food, the need for nourishment at this moment. Life becomes a lot more manageable and less stressful when we focus on our needs as a human, rather than all our numerous wants.

“The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.” -Peter Shaffer, Five Finger Exercise

It is so easy to buy into all the hype of clothes, diets, trends, restaurants, travel and don’t get me wrong, all these things are fun in their own way, but on the other hand, we sometimes make them our entire lives! We live for the next workout, meal out, next season’s clothing, getting to that perfect number on the scale, it can seem a little like an episode of the Real Housewives and no one wants that! We need to find joy in the little things, again focusing on the things we need versus the things we want. It can be making time for things you enjoy instead of compulsively checking your phone, it can be working a second job so you can afford therapy, it can be spending time with your kids instead of signing them up for another after school club because you and they just need a night in!

“There will be a few times in your life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. When that happens, you do it. Listen to your instincts and ignore everything else. Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it.”
-Judith McNaught, Remember When

We all want so much out of life, we want the best for ourselves and our families and there is nothing wrong with trying to provide the best, but often this path of “keeping up with Jones’” or I suppose today it is Keeping up with the Kardashians, is exhausting. We have to have the biggest house, newest car, best clothes, most impressive camps and vacations when in reality we are all most happy in our sweats, eating carry out and watching something on Netflix. That is the high life for most of us and that is A-OKAY! What is wrong with wanting to volunteer instead of going out on the weekend, what is wrong with ordering in a pizza instead of spending over a Hundred dollars on a restaurant, what is wrong with going to bed early to read a few more chapters of your new book before bed, ABSOLUTELY nothing! It just isn’t the WANTS that social media sells you. We are told to WANT so much and aim so much higher than our humble needs.

“You can have the other words-chance, luck, coincidence, serendipity. I'll take grace. I don't know what it is exactly, but I'll take it. ” - Mary Oliver

To all our members, you are amazing and wonderful and if we could we would hug you all and look you in the eye and say, “you matter, you are special, you are already amazing, don’t change, just grow.” We can’t say it in person, but please read this and know you are cared about. We are blown away by your tenacity in the face of hardship, abuse, infidelity, health are already your own hero, you just can’t see it that way just yet. But you will, it will just take a little time.

Don’t give up! We see you and we are so proud of you!
-Team SG

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