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That upbeat feeling

Do you ever have a day, or even a few days where life is going really well? You are feeling like the support, therapy, self care and every other item on your “Operation be a better human” list is finally paying off. Your ducks are in a row and you are feeling pretty darn proud of yourself. The rose colored glasses are firmly in place, life is good. It feels like progress has been made. We all live for these times where life seems good, where we feel worthy.

If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.
–Eleanor Roosevelt

As much as we wish we could ride the wave of greatness forever, inevitably something happens to make us feel less than. It could be that your child got in trouble at school or their grades are slipping, their failures feel like our failures. The angst sets in and we feel like the worst parent in the world, because obviously if we were better parents they wouldn’t be in this predicament. It could be that you used, drank or succumbed in some way to an addiction you felt you finally had a handle on. You were clean and sober for days, weeks, months and then you were back to day one and it just feels like the end of the world. Or the end of your sobriety, at the very least.

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.
–Soren Kierkegaard

The life events that knock us off our pedestal where at the top we feel like we are rocking life, to the very bottom, where we feel like failures, doesn’t even have to be that big of an event. It could be that we were baking bread and it never rose, or we thought we bought the most meaningful present and the recipient’s reaction was lukewarm at best. It is a huge blow to our ego when things don’t go exactly as planned, but it is in those moments when failure strikes and we don’t lose perspective, that we are most victorious.

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. - Denis Waitley

It is in those moments when we feel the lowest that we can attain greatness. Everytime we fail we get the opportunity to be better, to be better parents, to attain sobriety in a better, healthier way. Every failure should be looked at as an opportunity. Easier said than done obviously, but each time we look in the mirror and think grateful thoughts for our amazing body instead of feelings of failure, we have won. Each time we are able to walk away from our addiction of choice and remain sober, we have won. Each time we are able to sit down with our children and calmly address the issues they are having at school, we have won.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
-Dr. Seuss

Everyday is a journey, let’s remember that we are all learning and growing along the way. We are worthy, even when we feel like we aren’t. When things feel heavy and out of control, it is okay to cry, to feel let down, but it is important to remind yourself that this is only temporary. Log onto the site and ask for support, call your therapist or counselor and talk things through, take some deep breaths and remind yourself how amazing you really are! We all have our days when we are on the top of the world and others where we are in the depths of despair, but neither defines who we are. Never forget that you are amazing, worthy and loved!

Wishing everyone the very best!
-Team SG

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