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Silence is Golden

Last week we talked about how uncomfortable we are with silence, but over the last week, the topic of how necessary silence is has been repeating in our thoughts. When everything is going wrong, a quiet space is the perfect way to find your way again. When your anxiety and stress is off the charts, quietness and solitude are soothing and healing. When you are supporting someone in pain, being quiet and listening is perhaps the best gift you can give. Silence, while often uncomfortable, can be a space where healing, calmness and peace settle like a balm.

Never miss a good chance to shut up. -Will Rogers

In a talk we listened to the other day, the speaker was detailing how when people grieve, people attempt to support by saying the most hurtful things, like “it was God’s will” or “they are in a better place” or “they were too good for earth” all of which are so inappropriate. What would have been better is a casserole, a hug and an offer of a listening ear. There are opportunities where words are best and others where none would be better.

“I don't think…’then you shouldn't talk, said the Hatter.’”
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

In yoga, silence and closing your eyes sets a stage for a beautiful practice, one where your breath is steady, where peace settles, where it is only you and a mat. So too in life, when we allow silence to settle and our minds to quiet, everything that seemed chaotic and out of our control, seems so much less so.

I need to be alone. I need to ponder my shame and my despair in seclusion; I need the sunshine and the paving stones of the streets without companions, without conversation, face to face with myself, with only the music of my heart for company.
-Henry Miller, Tropic of Cancer

So instead of being uncomfortable with silence, revel in it, or accept the discomfort of it. Being uncomfortable is a feeling we are not used to accepting, but it is part of life. While exercising there is shaking and and fatigue, it is uncomfortable, but as we practice, it gets easier, more innate, more comfortable. Life is much the same, things that once caused us pain, discomfort, shame, made us feel vulnerable, becomes something we can tolerate and maybe even learn to be at peace with.

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
-Brene Brown

Be silent when it is called for, be uncomfortable, be vulnerable, be strong and as always, know you always have a place where support is freely given.

All the best-Support Groups

Brene Brown


zee4ward's picture
May 18, 2019

@SG Thank you. This post is excellent.

Ebeth50's picture
May 20, 2019

Thank you, especially for the quote about being brave enough to see the dark parts.

Support Groups's picture
May 21, 2019

@Ebeth50, We are so glad it spoke to your heart! SG

Support Groups's picture
May 21, 2019

Thank you! Best-SG

kanerobertx's picture
May 23, 2019

This is great..Thanks for sharing

Theta's picture
Aug 28, 2019

Indeed, it is "often for want of an listening ear" we long for, have need of truly.
Persons so often want to "help" by expeditiously offering their ideas on "how to fix it" and be done.

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