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Self Worth

Our hearts break every time we see a member post about how they don’t feel worthy. Worthy of getting help and support, worthy of having a committed and healthy relationship, worthy of seeking a divorce, worthy or living a fulfilling and healthy life.

We want to reach through the computer and give each of you a hug and let each and everyone of you know that you are all so incredibly worthy. We can say that without a doubt in our mind and without a minute's hesitation. The very fact you are on our site shows us that you desire something better in your life. You are ready to put in the hard work to overcome challenges and create a life that is better, healthier, and less toxic. While attaining your end goal won’t be as easy as flicking a magic wand, you are without a doubt, worthy of the challenge.

You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.
-Brené Brown

Somehow we get it in our head somewhere past our teenage years that the world doesn’t pivot around us, that we are not in fact the center of the universe. Real life is sobering and a constant refrain starts marching through our minds, “am I good enough?” We want to answer that of course we are, we are amazing, but then we look at our life and worry, does it measure up, do we ourselves measure up? The doubt starts to build in the back of our minds and just like that it begins, our worth is suddenly measured by our perceived level of perfection.

Happiness turned to me and said — ‘It is time. It is time to forgive yourself for all of the things you did not become. It is time to exonerate yourself for all of the people you couldn’t save, for all of the fragile hearts you fumbled with in the dark of your confusion. It is time, child, to accept that you do not have to be who you were a year ago, that you do not have to want the same things. Above all else, it is time to believe, with reckless abandon, that you are worthy of me, for I have been waiting for years. -Bianca Sparacino

So how do we work on discovering our own worth? What are some ways we can internalize and reaffirm our own worthiness?

We can stop expecting perfection from ourselves.
We are meant as humans to move forward, to withstand a lot of pressure, but we are not meant to attain perfection. So all the thoughts gathering in your mind that tell you that you aren’t worthy amount to a pile of lies. Replace these lies with positive affirmations or statements of truth. Print them out, write them in a journal, buy magnets with positive sayings and decorate your refrigerator, tape them to mirrors and windows. What the mind sees, it remembers.

Some affirmations to try:
I am worthy of good things
Negativity has no place in my heart of mind
I am in charge of my own destiny
I deserve to be loved
I will not compare my life or progress with others
I will prioritize my mental health
I forgive myself

We can stop making excuses.
We spend a lot of time making sure everyone else is taken care of and very little time checking in with ourselves. We make excuses that after the kids are grown, after this next project at work, after we cook dinner, fold the clothes, always after, that we will focus on what we need. We cannot pour indefinitely from an empty cup. You have to prioritize and drill into your very core, that you are worthy of self care. You deserve it and need to prioritize it! Set aside time to drink your coffee in peace, to exercise, to go to therapy, to get support, to have time to just sit quietly and reflect, for no other reason that you deserve this time, you are worthy of it.

Worthy now. Not if. Not when. We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is. -Brené Brown

Beautiful people, know your worth, walk away from those who cannot or will not acknowledge it. If you aren’t able to see your worth at present, promise to work towards seeing it and in time, acknowledging your strength and worth.

Until you can see it on your own, let us remind you, you are worthy.

Wishing you all nothing but the best, Team SG

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