Remember, you matter too

I was talking to a neighbour today that I don’t often get the chance to talk to. We used to when our kids were younger, but as a mom/caretaker I get it, our time is severely limited to short interactions with other adults outside work or working out. In fact our face time had to do with her needing a workout mat and I had one I needed to get rid of! I was having a Marie Kondo moment and decided I didn’t in fact need several mats as I was the only one using them!

In the midst of me extracting said mat out of my car, we got to talking about our drop off schedules and how much time she was spending in the car this past school year and how she was trying to make working out more of a priority this Summer. She had burnt out after race training and then had gotten really sick, which required a lot of rest. Now that she was feeling better she was making herself and her physical self more of a priority. I love hearing stories like that! I want to jump up and high five Moms and Dads, caretakers, Grandparents, basically all humans, who decide to make themselves a priority after all the time they spend caring for others!

“Prioritise self-care & incorporate a MINIMUM of 60 mins 'ME TIME' into your daily routine. YES THERE ARE enough hours in the day. NO EXCUSES.” - Miya Yamanouchi

I love my kids and my husband, but I crave alone time, I love my time working out or going to yoga where I get to be the focus of attention for a moment. There is no one clamoring for my attention and suddenly I am able to focus on my thoughts and dreams. I get to communicate with myself, go over the things I am worried about, ponder something I read, listen to music that moves me, basically be in my own little bubble and it is amazing! It is so important as we grow into adults and mature, that no matter how busy our lives become, or how many people in our lives rely on us, or how important our job is, we remember to slow down and make time to practice self care.

“Most of us have spent our whole lives being taught to believe everyone else's opinions about our bodies, rather than to believe what our own bodies are trying to tell us. For some of us, it's been so long since we listened to our bodies, we hardly know how to start understanding what they're trying to tell us, much less how to trust and believe what they're saying. To make matters worse, the more exhausted we are, the noisier the signal is, and the harder it is to hear the message.”

-Emily Nagoski, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

We seem to easily buy into this mentality that we become less important as we age, we become invisible in a way. We become a title, a parent of so and so, the spouse or partner of so and so, etc…. We retreat into this mentality and forget that we are in fact amazing, important and worthy. We love reading the stories on @HumansofNewYork, most of them are personal accounts of people, from all over the world, living their best lives AFTER coming to the conclusion that the life they were living needed to change. What a beautiful life we lead, we have the ability to change our course, our path isn’t set in stone.

“She decided that she wasn't going to focus on always trying to please others. She felt determined to take the time to get to know, and love, herself. And she hoped that the warm glow of appreciation she always looked for might actually come from within.”

-Phaedra Patrick, The Library of Lost and Found

No matter how you feel on this current path you are treading, don’t see it as a desolate path where you can see your future as far as the eye can see, there are always ways to change your direction, sometimes you just have to hack a new course with a machete. You are amazing, you are filled with love and light, you are created to do great things, thank you for allowing us to witness your journey. -Team SG

“What some call rebellion, others call survival.”
-Shirley Fessel


Haunted2's picture

Fabulous motivating Blog.
You Matter Too !!!

LollyNews's picture

I’m at the point in life where I get me time and I love it.

Lost1900's picture

Sooo encouraging....need to soak in every one of those words and put my machete to work!!!!

Support Groups's picture

@kate86, thank you for reading! Best-SG

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@Lost1900, Hack that path, we are so proud of you! Best-SG

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@LollyNews, Me time is #selfcare, enjoy every second of it! Best-SG

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@Haunted2, thank you for your lovely support! Best-SG

susan4620's picture

This is what I needed. I have had myself on the back burner far too long. Thank you

camio's picture

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Resolved to do that right I approach near-bankruptcy once again......physical pain hopefully to surmount once again...........brain overthinking getting out of hand, mental strain and eyestrain is never over............etc. God bless you for those words! I think I'll open a book at last ..........

Moma_York's picture

That last paragraph was very nice. I especially like this line "....sometimes you just have to hack a new course with a machete." :) It's true. I STILL don't believe there are enough hours in the day, but....I will look under the cushions of my sofa....just in case I find a few spare hours ..... along with the change. :)
You always find stuff under the sofa cushions. Thank you SG.

moonbean's picture

thnx bean told so manyy tims im not importenn otherss is impotenn not me but sean ths im lk wow

Zeff's picture

This really hit the home for me. I truly feel that whatever I need or want or say truly just doesnt matter.

Elena36's picture

Amazing read, thank you for sending and sharing this important reminder.

Elena36's picture

<3 <3 <3 sending you lots of love

TrishO's picture

That was just what I needed to hear. Thank you

TrishO's picture

That was just what I needed to hear. Thank you

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