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Patiently Impatient

Why some people love to be early, like at least a half an hour to fifteen minutes early, is something that our brains cannot handle.  Being on time means, in our minds, being there at the prescribed time, give or take fifteen minutes.  Why? Probably because so much of our life is spent waiting.  Waiting for things to happen, pickups, appointments, meals, therapy, opening times...we arrive and then we park ourselves in our idling cars or in a waiting room and we wait.  

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish. -John Quincy Adams

We wait a lot for internal change and progress as well.  Antidepressants and anxiety medication seem to be portrayed in the media as a magic wand, but while incredibly helpful, they can take awhile to work well.  Or you might discover a particular medication doesn’t work at all, which requires you to slowly come off the medication and start the process all over again on a new medication.  

Therapy and counseling, amazing mental health tools, are rarely overnight successes.  Beyond the time it takes to find someone you connect with, it takes a lot of hard work on your part to take the exercises and wisdom from whomever you are seeing and actually implement the practices and internalize the homework.  It can take weeks or months to finally see a difference.  So much patience is required, but rarely is this part of mental health discussed.

What I love about therapy is that they’ll tell you what your blind spots are. Although that’s uncomfortable and painful, it gives you something to work with. -Pink

In a world that can have a gourmet meal delivered to your door and deliver  your new running shoes overnight, medical and mental health care have a ways to go, but here are some tools that can help you get help quicker, less painlessly and avoid wait times, impatient souls rejoice!

You are the one thing in this world, above all other things, that you must never give up on. When I was in middle school, I was struggling with severe anxiety and depression and the help and support I received from my family and a therapist saved my life. Asking for help is the first step. You are more precious to this world than you’ll ever know. -Lili Rhinehart 

Online Therapy

Online therapy seems like something out of the Jetsons.  You find your platform, you fill out some questions, where you live, insurance, budget and you are given a list of available therapists.  Online therapy is also a lot more affordable and accessible than in person therapy. In the past we were forced to take time off from work to fit appointments in around the therapist’s schedule, whereas online therapy has a lot more flexibility when it comes to scheduling, especially early morning and evenings. has a great resource detailing what the top online Therapy sites have to offer and a good overview of their pricing structure as well.

VeryWell Mind's list of Best Online Therapy platforms 

Online Doctor Visits

Having used online doctor visits for things such as sinus infections and colds way before the pandemic drove most medical offices to offer online visits, we will attest that for the small things, they are amazing time savers.  Day of visits and very little wait time are their hallmarks.  They are also amazing for follow up visits.  A lot of practices and insurance providers are offering online care, to see if you are eligible, look online on your provider’s or insurance website, or call them directly.  

Learning to be patient when an immediate fix isn’t available

No one relishes the thought of going in to see a doctor or therapist and having them say, in a roundabout way, that the prognosis and treatment may not be fast and real change may take some time.  No one wants to hear that, but for a lot of us, that is the reality of the situation.  We are given options to try, treatments and medication that take time to work or at times, not work.  Which means a lot of reassessing and false starts.    

Just know:

  • It is okay to not want to be patient
  • It is okay to be frustrated and cry
  • It is okay to find a new doctor or therapist
  • It is okay to need support
  • It is okay to feel like progress isn’t coming fast enough
  • It is okay to feel life isn’t worth living, but know there are resources to help
  • NDMDA Depression Hotline800-826-3632
  • Suicide & Depression Hotline – 800-999-9999
  • US Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    • Call 800-784-2433
    • Text 800-273-8255
  • Suicide Prevention Services Crisis Hotline 800-784-2433

The advice I’d give to somebody that’s silently struggling is: You don’t have to live that way. You don’t have to struggle in silence. You can be un-silent. You can live well with a mental health condition, as long as you open up to somebody about it, because it’s really important you share your experience with people so that you can get the help that you need. -Demi Lovato

Patience is for saints, we are fighters, we know that to get what we need isn’t always easy, that we aren’t always believed, that we have to advocate and sometimes shout to be heard.  But know this, to us you are perfect, you are fighters, you are warriors.  

We see you and we are in awe of you.  

Wishing you all the best,

Team SG


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