Needing, wanting, having to slow down

I feel that from the minute Halloween is over, this time of year starts to feel like it is on too much caffeine and is a little heavy on the gas pedal. The decorations seem to go up a little earlier every year, the Christmas music is always too much and too early in my opinion and the advertising for every new toy arrives in my mailbox on the daily, to be eagerly viewed and circled by my kids, and it isn’t even December. Is anyone else tired?

So for the next couple of weeks we would like to suggest that you consciously slow down. That you take your foot off the gas pedal, that you step away from all the ideas of perfection for your house, your family, your dinner table from the impossible standards of social media and decide what the last few weeks of 2018 should look like for you.

“A huge part of recovery and life -is slowing down and accepting the unKNOWN. This is how you get to KNOW –yourself.” Brittany Burgunder

If how the next couple of weeks impacts your spouse, partner, and family, do include them, whatever is decided will impact your entire home. Questions of how many events between work, school and friends will be attended should be collectively decided on. Where will the holidays be spent, do you want family staying in your home? Should holiday meals be cooked, ordered in or should reservations be made. How much money is designated for gifts, the list is long, so budget wisely. Yes, it all sounds so mundane as a list, but the days go by quickly and having a game plan will allow you to not be ruled by anxiety and that completely “overwhelmed” feeling.

“If you're always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you're in? Slow down and enjoy the moment you're in and live your life to the fullest.” Nanette Mathews

It is so important to keep in mind that the holiday season isn’t about the parties, the gifts, it should largely be about making time to slow down. It should be a time for reflection and a time for self care. You can decide to spend your holiday time resting, not going anywhere. Or if a vacation is what you need and you can afford it, you should go. You shouldn’t be held back by what other people outside your immediate family expect of you. If therapy has taken over the part of your budget that usually goes to buying gifts, do not feel guilty. Make a small donation to a organization that means a lot to you and send family a friends a notice that you have made a donation in their name.

“The month of November makes me feel that life is passing more quickly. In an effort to slow it down, I try to fill the hours more meaningfully.” Henry Rollins

Consider trying something new in December, either on your own, or with friends and family, Yoga, Hiking, Rock Climbing, Book Club, Bunco, Mahjong, Meditation are a few things that come to mind. These activities can check off many different boxes, they can be a group gift, it can start or further encourage your fitness and health journey, it can encourage you to slow down and smell the roses so to speak. Make these last few weeks of 2018 memorable, but not for the normal reasons. Make it a time of reflection, a time to spend time with those you love and for those you don’t, learn to say “no” to those who don’t value you and your needs.

“Life goes by fast. Enjoy it. Calm down. It's all funny. Next. Everyone gets so upset about the wrong things.” Joan Rivers

The important things to remember:
*Toys will break and be important or about 5 minutes, invest in your children, buy them things they can build or read, or create with.
*Books are the very best gifts, you can even host a book swap for a fabulous and earth conscious party for a change of pace.
*Things you make with your own two hands will be treasured forever.
*Giving someone the gift of your time will be loved more than any gift you can ever come up with.
*Gift yourself rest days.
*Stay warm, stay present, stay peaceful and do what is right for you and your circumstances, not what people EXPECT of you, but what you expect from yourself.

As always, thank you for being a part of our site and our lives, Best-SG

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