Loving our bodies

We have covered the subject of loving our bodies before, but it is an important topic that bears the need to be repeated many times over. Two situations happened to me recently which sort of hit home the fact that we see ourselves in a COMPLETELY different light than other people see us.

The first situation was at a family event, I saw a cousin of my Grandmother’s who came over to me and said, “you know how much your Grandmother struggled with her weight, she would be so happy to see how thin you are!” I of course laughed and thanked her and privately thought, well I would hope she is proud of many, many other things than how my body looks!

The second incident was at a Doctor’s office, I was checking in and a woman next to me with a very small child said, “I wish I was that small!” I looked at her and thanked her, rather awkwardly, as she was at least 4-6 inches taller than me, had a small child so yeah, GRACE PEOPLE, and we had vastly different body types.

To love yourself as you are is a miracle, and to see yourself is to have found yourself, for now. And now is all we have, and love is who we are.
-Anne Lamott

Let me be clear, I am fairly short, I am a mother who has given birth more than once, and according to BMI scales I am normal. I do workout, I love chocolate and if you follow along on social media and on our weekly “Life Hacks” I adore coffee. Let me rephrase, when I say things like, “maybe I should give up coffee,” my kids think Armageddon is about to begin and all start saying that is a VERY BAD idea!! And guess what, before I get in the shower I stand in front of the mirror and examine myself in my birthday suit to see how things are hanging, so to speak. People, I am my own worst critic, but here these sweet souls are giving me compliments and I just want to shout, ENOUGH, let’s stop on the body compliments and criticism, it is bones and muscles and we all have them, isn’t that enough?

Everybody has a part of her body that she doesn’t like, but I’ve stopped complaining about mine because I don’t want to critique nature’s handiwork… My job is simply to allow the light to shine out of the masterpiece. -Alfre Woodard

Today we shared on Twitter a piece by Serena Daniari, a correspondent with Mic, that had to do with Transgender Woman and “Passing;” which is the term used to describe looking and having society think you are a Cisgender woman. What really struck me with this article and from posts on our site from those in the Transgender group, Eating Disorder group, Binge Eating Group, Obsity Group...is how we have an image in mind of how people should look and act and when, heaven forbid they don’t, some of us feel they have the right to judge that difference. It disgusts me really because I have a daughter who is tall and wears her hair short and often wears clothing that comes from the “boys” section. She is sometimes mistaken as a boy and guess what, she could care less! To have her coolness and strength people, really, she is #goals.

You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing yourself.
-Geneen Roth, Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything

This Hack, like a lot of things I write here, are taken from a personal place. I do that so they don’t sound like normal articles you read which are impersonal and clean, you get a first row seat into my messy, chaotic and very supportive brain. I understand you, because I am real and I get it. This summer, and every season, let’s do our best to eat well and exercise, because that is what our bodies do, medically speaking, need. Let’s aim to lift each other up, to go out to the pools and just enjoy ourselves, not wonder if all our bits and pieces are being judged. You are imperfectly perfect, period.

You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful. -Amy Bloom

Wishing you all nothing but Support and Goodness. -Team SG

Resources:
https://transgender.supportgroups.com/
https://eating-disorder.supportgroups.com/
https://binge-eating.supportgroups.com/
https://obesity.supportgroups.com/

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