Living with Hope

Like a lot of you, I share in the feeling that life sometimes hands you lemons. So many lemons and I don’t want to make lemonade thank you very much. I am too tired, I just want to walk away and add this to the pile of things I talk to a therapist or a friend about. Lonely childhood, check, divorced parents, check, loss of family that meant the world to you, check, and the list goes on. I am finding that the more people I talk to, our stories are starting to sound frightening familiar, have you noticed that on our site too? You will be reading a post and you start thinking, “this is a little freaky, this sounds like my life!” I think that there are so many things in life, troubles and all, that bind us together. We are part of an intricate tapestry and while patterns change, the overall design repeats itself over and over. I find this oddly comforting, that my pain and sadness isn’t new, that it is something that people have lived through and triumphed over, generations before me and they will continue to do so long after I am gone.

“Wherever you may go; Life is a beautiful thing. Life is like a passing season. It comes and go. Whatever may come, it's better to enjoy the changing seasons.” -Happy Positivity

For a lot of us family can represent a lot of pain. We can look at them and see that they have grown and changed, maybe your parents were awful when you were younger, but now as an adult they treat you quite wonderfully. As an adult with your own issues, job stresses and relationships to juggle in wild game of, “ don’t let the pins drop,” you can see that they weren’t really terrible, they were just busy and tired, like you are now. Some parents just should not have had children, you see it, probably everyone else sees it, but let’s face it, you came on the scene and they just never fell into the job of parents in a way that was easy. They were never there in a way that you needed. For others, the pain might stem from abuse, both physical and mental. All this to say, we are not all part of the Donna Reed Show, I am an 80’s kid by the way and I loved watching the black and white shows on reruns, so if you don’t get this reference, Google it!

“What's done is done. What's gone is gone. One of life's lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back to see how far you’ve come but keep moving forward.” -Roy Bennett

But the important thing to note is this, your past is part of you, but it doesn’t MAKE you who you are, that my friends you get to change and what a marvelous adventure it can be! I have found in my years of living on this planet that I have met the most wonderful people at the exact time I needed them in my life. Friends, neighbors, coworkers, people I attend classes with, have become the glue in my life, they have filled the gaps that my childhood and adolescence lacked, in my adulthood, they have become my mentors and the people I look to when I am in need. An important thing to note is that family does not have to share blood and DNA, the people in your life who stand up for you, cherish them, those are your people, your support group, your “chosen family.”

“Who do you spend time with? Criticizers or encouragers? Surround yourself with those who believe in you. Your life is too important for anything less.”
-Steve Goodier

Find things in your life that not only give you joy, but hope, find things, people, places, jobs... that inspire you. Hope is hanging on for the events and moments in your life that may presently be out of reach, but you fight for the chance to make them a reality in the next moment. You might be getting over someone, you may be struggling with an addiction, you may be considering cutting someone toxic out of your life, and in this moment it all seems so sad and out of reach. The courage though is within, so take the next step and make a stand and the reality is, afterwards the fear you have been holding onto, GONE! You made things happen, you did what you had to do and yes, it is sad, hard to deal with at times and it can make your heart ache. But then this amazing reality sets in, you have hope, you can see that this change is only one of many that will have to make in life, but the path wasn’t as scary as you once felt it would be, or as sad as you once felt it to be.

“I say looking on the bright side of life never killed anybody.”
-Jenny Han, To All the Boys I've Loved Before

You have this amazing ability as a human to find hope when all hope seems to be lost. So don’t live life doubting your ability to make positive change, the strength to do hard things are hard wired inside of you, you just have to find the courage to take the first step. -Team SG

I say looking on the bright side of life never killed anybody

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I love your posts <3

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