Learning to be okay with uncertainty

We live in an uncertain world, we like to think that there are certain givens, such as safety, but the truth is, and it grieves us to even admit this, that isn’t always the case. As we are seeing with the Measles outbreak, people feel they are smarter than scientists and don’t vaccinate, putting babies, elderly and those with immune issues at great risk. We are seeing people go to worship at their Mosque, Temple and Churches and never come home. We see children go off to school and never return. We have seen countless celebrities and those only their family will remember, shot and killed for largely senseless reasons and it makes you wonder, what is guiding people towards such hate? There is so much uncertainty, so much pain, so many tears, the desire to remain positive seems trite at best.

“Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; its your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good! There are two kinds of people: those who choose to throw out the good cherries and wallow in all the rotten ones, and those who choose to throw out all the rotten ones and savor all the good ones.”
-C. JoyBell C.

The feeling that everything is one big cosmic messup is strong at times, we all feel it, we all worry and want, desperately WANT, certainty, but that isn’t what we get. There isn’t a crystal ball saying everything will be OK, we get the equivalent of a magic 8 ball with sayings like:
“I wouldn’t do that if I were you!”
“Put down that bag of chips!”
“Honey, you deserve that chocolate bar!”
“Proceed at your own risk!”
“Wash your hands, do you know how many germs are on there?!”

“I promise you that the same stuff galaxies are made of, you are. The same energy that swings planets around stars makes electrons dance in your heart. It is in you, outside you, you are it. It is beautiful. Trust in this. And you your life will be grand.” -Kamal Ravikant, Live Your Truth

We can live every waking moment in fear, which is something you may have experience with, and for those of us who have lived this way or live this way, it is a sad, scary and lonely existence. I have an elderly neighbor who reminds me of this mindset. Either through age or perhaps she was always like this, she tends to think the sky is falling every couple of days. Notre Dame’s fire was an act of God in her view, a punishment for our evil ways. I adore her even though I tell her outright that I don’t believe in a God that is vengeful like that. It doesn’t help me view this world in a good and positive light if I am thinking there is a Higher Being that is vengeful like the Greek and Roman God and Goddess Contingent.

“If you see the world and yourself through a lens smudged by negativity then you’ll find much misery. If you look outwards and inwards through lens brightened by positivity you’ll find much to be happy and appreciative about.”
-Henrik Edberg, The 7 Timeless Habits of Happiness

So how can we live a good life in a world of uncertainties?
*Make your peace with change, but at the same time, in your own life, institute as many constants as you need
*Meal Plan, Shop Online, Schedule groceries, plan your evenings around your shows, use big wall calendars…
*Do what you can to mitigate stress
**Plan a monthly massage, a mani-pedi, learn to meditate, set aside time to read something meaningful once a day, set a daily mantra
*Manage your health as best as you can
*Get your vaccinations, schedule regular health visits; mammograms, yearly checks for men and women, colonoscopies, STD checks, Skin Cancer checks, dental exams, WEAR SUNSCREEN

It is a tough lesson to learn, but change isn’t always a bad thing, uncertainty can teach teach us patience, compassion, kindness...it can be hard at first, but often it turns out to be exactly what needed to happen in our life. Sometimes a life of certainty is equivalent to falling into a rut. Change can lead us to things, people and places we never even dreamed about. Don’t dig in your heels when life become unpredictable, see what the universe is trying to teach you, be grateful for the opportunity to mix things up!

As always, thank you for reading and for allowing us to be a part of your journey. -Team SG

Being okay with uncertainty


Austin12's picture

Hi how do I do this in an emotionally dysfunctional family and marriage with autistic son I have no healthy support and therapist is not really helping me

Technofreak's picture

I I have always been told be good and good things will come to me. This is what I was told growing up and to some extent I still believe it. Yet I am seeing those who cheat is every way, liars get what they want, people of poor character deceive those who care for them. Is this a cosmic joke or what?

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