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In Praise of being lazy

So much of what we define as lazy is actually self care. We are so intent on being the best and the most amazing all the time, it gets exhausting. We are humans and need downtime, I am all for mandatory napping and time scheduled for reading and the occasional massage. I think boring is actually ideal, where time sitting on a front porch watching the sunset is actually but above rushing about, getting one more text or email sent out.

I am a fan of big, chunky sweaters and comfy pajamas pants, I am a fan of Netflix shows, I am a fan of novels and Thai food. I love watching Sarah Plain and Tall and Princess Bride with my kids because of the amazing strong women leads, but can’t bring myself to watch other shows from my youth because PG is like PG 13 (made that mistake once). I am busy all the time, I wake up early to workout (but you all know that by now, unless you are new, which if that is the case, welcome), then it is breakfasts and lunches to be packed, kiddos to get out the door, work, after school activities, dinner and then thank God almighty, I am so happy to slink off and collapse on the couch.

But I have to admit, sometimes I am so happy to have my one lazy moment of the day that I enjoy it so much and I fall asleep! I am like a newborn baby, I get relaxed and boom, goodnight folks! I am amazed there was a time in my life that I could stay up really late and study and then be back up the next day!

"I'm very, very lazy. I love to sit in a chair and look out the window and do nothing." -Ingmar Bergman

Some people think that being busy all the time is the goal and to a point I agree, getting things done and being productive is amazing, but sitting with my kids reading, watching a movie, painting, walking through a museum spending hours reading all the placards is my idea of luxury, i.e. lazy time. I know we have to work hard in life at our jobs, managing our health and our mental health, but it is also so important to plan in rest time. Sitting on your tush, reading a book by the fire while the laundry needs folding and eating sandwiches sometimes because you just cannot cook another meal.

There is such freedom with allowing yourself the opportunity to be still, to not rush around, to find gratefulness in this moment in time that you aren’t rushing around and that you said “no” to yet another commitment or told your child to pick one or two after school activities and not five. Because while I like the pictures of my friends on social media sitting on the sidelines for sports, or dance, or whatever, 5 plus days a week, I am not for it. I like having dinner before 7 and I am not ashamed that I make my family’s sleep schedule a priority every school night.

“When you feel thankful, you can be appreciative for a moment, then not at all the next. It seems the tank is full, then it becomes empty, and the cycle continues. If you don't feel the same gratitude for a moment, know that it's possible in the next moment that comes around.” - J.R. Rim

If you are like most American adults, you are probably exceptionally stressed at this moment, so first, take a moment to roll your neck around a few times, then roll your shoulders and take a deep breath. It is amazing how something so simple is so important, it is essential to move around during the day. Most of us are tethered to our desk throughout the day, but standing and walking around for a few minutes, or laying your head down for a brief amount of time isn’t lazy, it is self care, you are hitting the pause button and you will feel so much better for having done it.

“I believe that life is chaotic, a jumble of accidents, ambitions, misconceptions, bold intentions, lazy happenstances, and unintended consequences, yet I also believe that there are connections that illuminate our world, revealing its endless mystery and wonder.” -David Maraniss

As the holidays speed upon us, schedule at least an hour a day where you can sit and relax, come on the site, get some support, read, take a walk, schedule a massage, listen to some music and above all, see it as essential, essential laziness, it is a beautiful gift you can gift yourself, the gift of time.

Wishing you all the best!
-Team SG

Once she stopped rushing through life, she was amazed how much more life she had time for.


buddhabob's picture
Nov 21, 2018

There's an interesting article in a recent issue of New Scientist. Apparently there *is* such a think as "too much self control". Well worth reading. I've put a PDF of it at:

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