If at first you don’t succeed

Do you ever feel like this life is in need of some better directions, like where is that darn instruction manual?! I have been feeling like that a lot lately, not feeling my best and that makes everything so much harder, doesn’t it? I have found that when I eat well and exercise I feel better, but this past year, well, I have learned that like all routines, they have to be shaken up every now and again. I get into these ruts where I do the same thing over and over, but I know if I listened to my body and my mind, I know they are saying, “Darling, listen up, what you were doing worked a while ago, but like the skinny eyebrow, we need a reboot, we need to be taken care of, like really taken care of, PRONTO!”

“It's hard to beat a person who never gives up.” -George Herman Ruth
I find change to be scary, I like routines, there is comfort for me in routines, but life demands a bit of flexibility, it requires a little letting go and some “roll with the punches” attitude. That is a really hard lesson for me to stomach at times. I cling to what I know and am comfortable with, but that doesn’t always mean it is the best for me, my family, my lifestyle or my health. You would think as I am approaching 4 decades on this planet, I would internalize this truth, but like the rest of you, I am constantly re-learning this lesson.

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
-C. JoyBell C.

So how do we work on internalizing an attitude of not giving up? Life is about deciding ahead of time that while we might choose to go down one path, because it seems the best for us and perhaps the healthiest, there is the possibility it isn’t the best path for us. We can’t know the future, so we have to take a chance and jump in with both feet. Often we have to try something out to see if it is a fit. We might find ourselves walking down a particular path and it is amazing, we are so proud of ourself, it is the perfect path, until it isn’t. We can come to realize that this is not the direction we wanted at all or at this stage of life!

“Why do they always teach us that it's easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It's the hardest thing in the world--to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want.” -Ayn Rand

It takes a lot of courage to say, “This isn’t working, I may take a cut in salary, or it might take more time to graduate, or this relationship isn’t healthy anymore...but it is time to make a change, no matter the effort it takes to make this much needed life change.” I remember when I was getting my undergraduate degree, I was young and impressionable and I picked a degree plan that interested me, after 3 years and a long internship I was over it, I wanted nothing to do with this particular career field. I was sick over the time I had wasted (as far as switching to another degree plan), but I found a solution. It wasn’t the most ideal, but I worked really hard, took a ton of Summer and flex semesters and graduated with my BS in just a little over 4 years. Yes, it would have been a lot easier to just grin and bear it, but it wasn’t the BEST for me.

“Risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
-Leo F. Buscaglia

Have you found yourself at a crossroads lately? We encourage you to look at your situation and see it for what it is, an opportunity. This is your life sending you a message, now is the time to take the fork in the road, it might be scary, scratch that, it probably will be, but it might turn out to be the best decision you ever make! Hold on tight to the saying, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

As always, thank you for allowing us to be a part of your life!

All the best-Team SG


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imdonewithlife's picture

if first yo dont have sucess give up because it wanst ment for you

imdonewithlife's picture

if first yo dont have sucess give up because it wanst ment for you

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Thank you! Best-SG

Pestisor's picture

Hey.Great post! Can relate so much to it.Keep up the good work! ^^

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