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Happy Tears, Sad Tears, Tears abound in 2020

What a wild ride 2020 has been. It seems like there were way more downs than ups, but just when you are completely convinced that there is no way 2020 can look up, there is. You see something online that makes you tear up. It used to be that we only teared up at Hallmark commercials, but now it is political ads and news stories. We have become soft in our adult years and our eyes seem to leak a lot lately.

Here is our first example of what has gotten our eyeballs misting lately:
Republican Lieutenant Governor Spencer Cox and law professor Chris Peterson, a Democrat, both running for Governor in the state of Utah released a video message calling for civility among voters. Saying that whatever happens on election day, to accept the results gracefully as will they.

"We can debate issues without degrading each other's character."
-Chris Peterson

It doesn’t seem like something that would cause tears, but this election has stirred up a lot of anger and hate and for people like us on this site, that can be a huge trigger. We have been bullied, yelled at, called names, dealt with addiction, been in a relationship with a Narcissist, we have dealt with mental and physical health issues and all these topics have at one time or another been mocked by the current President and his behavior has perhaps mirrored our abusers, which is a hard trigger to be subjected to for 4 years.

“Somewhere inside of all of us is the power to change the world.”
-Roald Dahl

This takes us to the second thing that has caused our eyes to leak, voting. As humans, as children of immigrants, as women, as people of color, basically if you weren’t born white and male, your right to vote wasn’t guaranteed until the last couple of decades in history. So when we get to walk up to our polling station and wait for our turn to cast our ballot, it doesn’t seem like a drudgery at all. It seems exciting and a really important privilege. Even if this year looked a little different with a plastic glove on our hand, a pencil for a stylus and a mask on our face, overall it was pretty much the highlight of our year.

“Someone struggled for your right to vote. Use it.” -Susan B. Anthony

Third and surprise, this has nothing to do with the election, we present, His Holiness the Pope. In a documentary by Evgeny Afineevsky, Pope Francis said, "Homosexual people have a right to be in a family. They are children of God and have a right to a family. Nobody should be thrown out or made miserable over it. What we have to create is a civil union law. That way they are legally covered." -His Holiness the Pope

2020 has given us a lot to cry over, ugly, ugly tears and these are three things that have given us something to cry over with a smile on our face. It may seem silly and small, but we will take it. Never in a million years when 2020 began did we see what was ahead for us. COVID-19 has ravaged our country, hundreds of thousands have died, our children were sent home, we became a homeschooling nation overnight, summer camps were closed, hospitals were overrun, but oh my goodness, people stood up.

“If we don't fight for what we 'stand for' with our passionate words and honest actions, do we really 'stand' for anything?” -Tiffany Madison, Black and White

People have stood up and stood proud and when we look back on this year, that is what we should focus on. The front line workers, the Doctors, Nurses, Firemen and Firewomen, Police, the Sanitation workers, Cleaning Crews, Teachers, Pastors, Rabbis, Clergy, Imams, they all stepped up in ways we couldn't even imagine. Yes, there has been pain, death, we have seen Men and Women of Color be killed in front of our eyes, we have seen Police Brutality, we have witnessed bleakness, but since we can only take responsibility for ourselves, our job is to speak up, to act with conscience and vote. This is what we can do to make our world a little bit better and brighter.

“You have to stand up for some things in this world.”
-Marjory Stoneman Douglas

Until next time, Team SG

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