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Giving yourself the credit your deserve

I don’t know if it’s the cold, or holidays or another year end looming, but lately I have started thinking, have I accomplished enough, done enough, and then mostly I am happy to slink off to bed early with a good book and comfy warm pajamas and wake up one day closer to 2019! Do you remember when you were a kid and you never really thought about time, maybe in terms of holidays and countdowns to birthdays, but as an adult, goodness is feels like the days race by. I don’t have a great memory, but I still remember in detail what I served last New Years eve, I mean how has it almost been 365 days already?!

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." Oprah Winfrey

As the year wraps up and you are most likely still wrapping gifts, PSA to those who actually do, it is almost 2019, it is bad for the environment, use gift bags and reuse (sorry, off our soapbox); let’s look back on some of the goals you might have set for the year 2018. You might not have accomplished any of them, or maybe you just started, but it is good to look back and see what the year has brought you. Perhaps you ended a bad and unhealthy relationship, started school, changed jobs, entered therapy or rehab, finally took a step in the right direction as far as managing your health. It may not seem like anything newsworthy, but any show of progress is worth celebrating, hell it is worth printing a t-shirt and parading around in, working on yourself is hard work, really hard, so don’t discount any inch of progress.

"At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent."
-Barbara Bush

Some tips on giving yourself the credit you deserve:

*Start writing down the goals you set and the ones you want to set for next year, be honest, what held you back from making the progress you had set for yourself, are the goals attainable, are they healthy, are they too lofty and need to be broken down into more manageable parts?

*Eating well and exercising are on almost everyone’s list, but they are hard goals for almost everyone. What is keeping you from exercising, if it is time, figure out how to squeeze some time from your busy schedule. Keep some hand weights by your desk, bring sneakers to sports practice and walk or run during practice (you don’t have to watch every practice), buy a fitness subscription or a gym membership. Do something that will motivate you, day after day, not just the week after New Years.

**As far as eating better, so many grocery stores now have great and healthy prepared meals, there are delivery services and if you are not afraid, I have heard great things about the Instapot, but the thing scares me.

*Set aside time to get support, to log on and just share what is going on, what you are dealing with, things that are bothering you, like pre-teens, does anyone else feel my pain?

*Make time for self care, if that is therapy, or exercise, a class, haircut, even shopping around Target (can I get an AMEN?), make the time, hire the babysitter, schedule it into your partner’s phone so they don’t forget and then don’t feel guilty for even a second while you have your time away.

"You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end, each of us must work for his own improvement and, at the same time, share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be most useful." -Marie Curie

When you are checking off all the people you have bought presents for, don’t exclude yourself. We all deserve good things, sometimes we just have to be our own Santa and get ourselves what we need to succeed or motivate ourselves to accomplish things in our life that can’t be be wrapped with a bow, but shine pretty bright nevertheless.

All the best-
Team SG

Be You. Do You. For You.


a_survivor's picture
Dec 16, 2018

as selfish as this is, i am staying here on SG to help those who are at the starting block where i was 33 years ago in such trauma and mental pain being there is no cure. comforting them with my experience(s) which they will eventually get to once they move to the next level. yes "They" benefit from my wisdom, but ultimately it makes me feel good to "give back" and so i stay here helping until i burn out once again... very symbiotic, but i'm doing this for myself....

You Don't Know WHAT You Don't Know...

Support Groups's picture
Dec 17, 2018

We hope that you will find the courage to reach out!

Support Groups's picture
Dec 17, 2018

a_survivor, thank you for all you do and for paying it forward, it is wonderful to have someone who understands what you are going through who has actually been there and done that. Thank you. Best-SG

VicGuy's picture
Dec 17, 2018

Care for You. Respect for You. Love You.

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