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Friendships

There are people who collect friends, they nurture relationships, they have had friendships since childhood and to this day they talk, visit and generally stay in each other’s lives.

Then there are the people who want to have friendships, but find the whole process overwhelming, remembering to respond back to texts, inviting them over, going to do things with them, generally being in one another’s lives to a certain degree. It can kind of feel like another responsibility, rather than a joy.

Finally there are the people who either do not want others in their lives under any circumstances or the ones who might like a few friends, but find making friends a horror best reserved for Halloween movies.

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
-Oprah Winfrey

The other day a person whom in my world is categorized as an acquaintance and in their mind we are friends, reached out about having coffee together. It was not high on our priority list, but with COVID our social gatherings are still few and far between, so the invitation was accepted. It was a very trying hour because we have very little in common and for someone who can talk to anyone about most anything, I sat, ate and listened.

Two things came to mind after getting in the car and leaving:
1. Friendship or getting together with others should be uplifting
2. When you don’t want to do something with someone, saying “no” is better than suffering through an interaction

Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years. -Richard Bach

We have seen a lot of posts lately detailing how lonely people feel and that feeling is typically magnified around the holidays. So while there are many online guides on how to make friends and be more outgoing, we thought we would just focus on how to prioritize your time and how to put yourself in more social situations (only if you want to).

SG Tips:
1. Only say yes to invitations that bring you joy, that make you excited and don’t feel for a moment like a burden. We are still in the midst of a pandemic, so there's really no better excuse than to say, “I am still limiting my interactions due to COVID, but thank you for inviting me.” It is also totally okay to ask a host about their COVID protocols and how many people will be attending. Additionally, sending a small gift to a host makes your RSVP of NO go down a lot smoother.

2. If you would like to interact with other humans, the world is opening up quite a bit, especially if you are vaccinated, so sports teams, volunteering, book clubs, workout classes or groups are all incredibly great places to meet people. The added benefit is that you are presumably doing something you enjoy and that the people around you enjoy, so there are built in shared interests.

3. Don’t get discouraged if making friends or acquaintances takes some time. Put yourself out there and invite people to an outside bar or movie in a park. You really only need one person to say yes!

If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.
-Winnie the Pooh

In a world that is often virtual and distant, know that you are always welcome on our site, to talk, to complain, to cry, to ask and give support. We are here for you.

Wishing you all the best,
Team SG

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