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Dealing with Change

As a general rule humans aren’t fond of change, most of us are creatures of habit, we enjoy our routines and get quite cranky when we are forced to change them. We enjoy our coffee routines, our workout routines, our self care routines, basically, we like routine. It calms and soothes us because change is scary. A year ago we had no idea of the change that was coming our way in the United States. Of course we were reading the news that was dominated by stories about COVID, but surely it wasn’t going to affect us here, RIGHT? Yes, a lot of us really did think that pandemics were in the past and distance would save us, forgetting that planes, trains and boats go both directions and that means germs hitched a ride and dispersed far and wide.

All great changes are preceded by chaos. -Deepak Chopra

All of sudden everything shut down and we were faced with massive change unlike anything most of us have ever known. It has been a scary year and people keep talking about “getting back to normal” and that has us thinking. There has been a lot about our life during the pandemic that we have learned from and found beneficial. Mask wearing took some time to get used to, but ultimately has been kind of amazing. Besides very thankfully not getting COVID, we haven’t gotten sick with every bug that our kids usually bring home from school because our kids haven’t been sick either! There has been tons of hand washing and no one is just walking around coughing or sneezing on us because we are wearing masks!

With some states deciding they no longer need a mask mandate in place, it is now up to all of us to choose science and kindness and continue to mask up!

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. -Margaret Mead

While the last year has altered our way of life, it hasn’t been our only challenge. Life as we knew it didn’t stop, it just changed, quite drastically for a lot of us. A new normal has emerged, but it doesn’t negate the fact that personal change, regardless of the fact we have proven to ourselves that we can survive through a pandemic, remains something we fear.

I have accepted fear as part of life — specifically the fear of change... I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back. -Erica Jong

So how can we make change a little easier to manage and not rock the boat we are all so precariously balancing in?

Change is inevitable, people we trust to handle our mental and physical health will retire and move, job opportunities will come and go, relationships will end, etc. Our first instinct when faced with change is to hide our heads in the sand or at least under our blankets. While cozy, it doesn’t solve the problem at hand. Acceptance of the situation is key, plus it is the adult thing to do, so we are told. Full disclosure: we fully acknowledge that being an adult is very hard!

*Make a plan*
Once we acknowledge that change has occurred and perhaps shed a few tears over it, we need to make a plan. That can be going on our insurance company’s website to look at finding a new doctor, counselor or therapist, or checking out one of the many health and mental health apps available and finding a new doctor, counselor or therapist that way. Sometimes change can be the push to try something new! It can be writing a new and updated resume and posting to as many job posting sites as possible. It can be the decision to sign up for a fitness app or streaming service. It can be the decision to join alcoholics anonymous. The world is your oyster, be bold and make a plan!

*Follow through*
As previously acknowledged, change is hard and is often scarier than Halloween night, but we were not put on this earth to tremble with fear and back away from what scares us! Yes, we may still be quaking, but it doesn’t mean we don’t have what it takes to follow through. Schedule that appointment with your new doctor, counselor or therapist, put it on your calendar in bold and while you may want to cancel, be brave and follow through. Follow up to the jobs you have posted and when you do get an interview, set yourself apart by immediately sending a personalized thank you email or linkedin message. Put down in your calendar when you are going to workout and for how long. Then set out your workout clothes and your running shoes and get your sweat on!

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.
-N.R. Narayana Murthy

While change seems as charming as a root canal, it is going to happen, time marches on and with it comes change. We can’t stay static forever and while it is scary, often it forces us to do things we wouldn’t have done unless we were pushed.

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. -Rumi

May we all face change with courage and determination and may the end result be beyond our wildest imaginations. Remember, we are all braver and more amazing than we give ourselves credit for.

All the best-Team SG

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