Change is hard, doing nothing is harder

Change is hard, there is nothing harder than doing something different after you have done something a certain way forever! We hem and haw about making a change, we go to therapists, doctors, religious leaders, we read self help books, we look up articles online until our eyes are bleary and it all comes down to this, about any issue or problem you are dealing with, change is needed. But as a whole, we as humans are adverse to change, we like our routines, even if they don’t actually work for us. Our routines are comfortable and comfort is exactly where we like to be in life. Are we speaking to your heart's right now? We sure hope so, because the sooner you learn that change will always be hard and that it is hard for every single person on the planet, making steps towards change will seem a little less intimidating. We learn to embrace the hardship and we can prepare to move forward.

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.” -Alice Walker

Life is far from easy and it is often messy and hurtful, but it can also be beautiful. Recently we watched a video featuring Pete Buttigieg, a 2020 Presidential hopeful, who was talking about how when he was younger he would have taken any means necessary to vanquish the Gay away. Life wasn’t easy and it was a hard path to acceptance, but then he talked about how wonderful his life has become. The part of himself that he hated the most, become the part that led him to the life he now loves and the man he loves and married, Chasten. It reminded us how in life, the parts that seem the darkest and most hopeless, can often bring us the most joy and clarity later on. We just have to have the strength to hold on until we reach that point in time where we can process our hurt through a different lense.

“People talk about things like marriage equality as a moral issue, and it is certainly a moral issue as far as I’m concerned. It’s a moral issue because being married to Chasten has made me a better human being — because it has made me more compassionate, more understanding, more self-aware and more decent. My marriage to Chasten has made me a better man and yes, Mr. Vice President, it has moved me closer to God.”
-Mayor Pete Buttigieg

Your problems in life may seems guargutian and other issues may seem small, but no matter the size, getting to the root of the issue is painful, looking within is not for the faint of heart. Making decisions to better your life comes with both joy and sorrow. Giving up on an addiction can be the best decision you make in your life, it can allow you to think clearly, have better relationships and enable you to do things you only dreamed of, but it can come at a cost, financial and emotional.

Change always has a cost, you may lose friends who you thought were your rock because the thing that held you together was actually a shared addiction. Being around people who are only “recreational” users can be a trigger and these friends may also fall by the wayside. At the end of the day, you have to balance what is best for you, your physical health and mental health and have a devil may care attitude about what happens as you work towards being a better version of yourself.

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
-Bette Midler

Darling people, no matter what you are going through, the most beautiful thing about our site is that there is likely someone else going through the same thing or something similar. While that doesn’t solve the puzzle of life for either of you, it does create a feeling of comradery and companionship. Knowing you are not alone allows you to forge a path with a little more light being shone along the way.

“Nothing in the world is ever completely wrong. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.” -Paulo Coelho, Brida

We are so grateful that you are here on our site, we treasure each of our members and the wisdom you bring. You are strong beyond measure and it is a privilege to be a part of your life and your path towards change.

All the best,
Team SG

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