Be steadfast in the face of hardship

We are so sorry that we skipped last week, I (the writer of your weekly life hack) was dreadfully ill, the kind of ill the makes you want to weep and on top of that, I discovered I was allergic to a particular medication and might I just say, the side effects were more tortuous than the illness to begin with! But let’s be honest, these are the trials and tribulations of a large part of our members. We are trying to live life and hold our head above water and then BAM! Something happens where we feel unmoored and unbalanced, we are forced to rest when we don’t have the time for it and our bodies respond, “too bad.” It is humbling when your alarm goes off in the morning and you find yourself too weak to get up, for me this will eventually taper off, but for a lot of you, with physical and mental illness, this is a daily reminder that hardship is a constant companion.

“There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state with another, nothing more. He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness. We must have felt what it is to die, Morrel, that we may appreciate the enjoyments of life.
" Live, then, and be happy, beloved children of my heart, and never forget, that until the day God will deign to reveal the future to man, all human wisdom is contained in these two words, 'Wait and Hope.”
― Alexandre Dumas

As we are still in the first month of 2019, there are still so many posts and shares on social media regarding dieting, exercising, being the best version of yourself and while we wholeheartedly believe in working hard on being the best you that you can possibly be, the message is a little off. Shouldn’t we be working on seeing ourselves as amazing individuals that can always benefit from healthy eating, but it is okay for a treat now and then, that working out is a wonderful tool to increase our health and decrease our stress, but it shouldn’t be used as a tool to mold us into a certain socially “agreed upon shape.” Just as a puzzle has a variety of shapes and together all these shapes make an amazing picture; together, you and I make the world better and brighter, we don’t take up space, we create light and beauty.

“Life's under no obligation to give us what we expect.”
― Margaret Mitchell

Let's use this month and each week that follows, to ingrain into our mindset that we as individuals are worthy of the time and money it takes to improve our lives for the better. In the past couple of weeks I have been to the doctor more than in the past several years combined for both myself and my family. It isn't how I would love to spend my money, but on the other hand I am grateful that I have insurance and the money to cover my expenses. I am very mindful that not everyone has that ability or has insurance at all. Money is a huge roadblock when it come to healthcare and therapy, but there are many resources to help, even though it may not seem so at first glance. State and local service centers are really a good place to start your search.

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Life is often best lived when we fight for the things we need in order to succeed. It can be fighting for a diagnosis, the right medication, a doctor that listens to you, a therapist you trust...when I am in this situation I often think of Katniss in the Hunger Games, the part where they have to get supplies from the cornucopia, maybe it is just me, but healthcare feels that overwhelming to me at times. The thing is, for most of us, we are learning how to maneuver through the medical system on our own, the billing is erratic and often it takes awhile to see a specialist, this is far from how it should be, but from personal experience, don’t ever take “no” or silence as an acceptable answer. Ask on social media and on our site, for referrals, for advice, for support, people are so willing to share their knowledge, it is humbling to see such kindness in action.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

I am hoping that 2019 is going to be an amazing year, it hasn’t started out so great, but I am really hoping this is just a minor bump in the road, we will see…. To all of you, thank you as always for your kindness and support. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your lives, it is an honor and privilege we do not take lightly.

All the best-Team SG

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