Hi, I have a question and I hope someone can give me a good

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Hi, I have a question and I hope someone can give me a good answer. I understand same sex attraction and relationships. So i get the L and the G. I am not sure about the T, but I can deal with that. I think being Q means your are one of the other letters. BUT, if you are a bisexual, can you ever lead a joyous life in a monogamous relationship? Someone told me that bisexuals can be in a monogamous relationship, because they are able to basically turn off the desire for whatever the other sex is. If that is true, it seems as if they are either straight (i don't use cis because it's silly) or they are gay. SO if it's true that Bisexual people cannot have a monogamous relationship, because they will always be looking for the opposite of what they have, that is truly a choice (My name is Bill and I am married to Jill, but i really want to screw Chuck and Dave and any guy. Oh, and I want to screw Anna too). I think using the B in LGBT is an insult to people who identify as one of the other letters. What "rights" are denied to bisexuals? If i am a man married to a woman, but I desire guys as well, would i be denied employment? I truly don't get it. Can someone help me?

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Apr 19

@kzen look at the two posts by guys in straight marriages. they are both dying to have a sexual relationship with a guy. I agree with someone else who posted basically there is not one formula to this. but I still contend that if you are Bi, it's nearly impossible to have a completely fulfilled life if confined to one sex or the other.

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Apr 19

@bleume um, excuse me? How would you possibly know that? Are you bi? People have perfectly fulfilling life as monogamous people as bi. Just because two men in straight marriage are attracted to men enough to think about being with someone else than their spouse it doesn't mean that all bisexual people need to be with both all the time. Yes this is obviously a problem for them but you can't judge litterally a whole sexuality from reading Two people's experiences. Don't speak on things you have no experience with.

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20 hours ago

@sry I am not arguing, I am only trying to understand. How could I possibly know? I don't know. that was the reason for my post. I did find this article in psychology today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/strictly-casual/201409/are-bisexuals-really-less-monogamous-everyone-else

In the article this paragraph confirmed my suspicion, but I am not 100% convinced either way.

What these findings do mean is that bisexuals as a group appear more willing to question monogamy and consider other alternatives. This is not surprising: The notion of monogamy as the only or best relationship arrangement is a culturally-imposed ideal, not unlike the notion that heterosexuality or monosexuality (attraction to only one sex) is the only or the best sexual orientation. These culturally-imposed ideals may or may not work for individual people, but it requires a certain amount of cognitive flexibility and interpersonal courage to question such deeply entrenched social conventions. It’s plausible that the same flexibility that allows bisexuals to defy societal constraints on who they can love also allows them to defy social constraints on how many they can love, and how. Their attraction to both sexes may be just an additional impetus for questioning the monogamy norm.

I am done posting on this topic. I am sorry sry if i offended you.

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