Just went and bought a £90 pair of shoes. Knowing full well

Just went and bought a £90 pair of shoes. Knowing full well I have next to nothing in my account, and will incur bank charges. Why did I do it? To cheer myself up. Am I cheered up? No. In fact I think I've just done it to further punish myself. No one in the real world to share this with. So Im telling people on the Internet. Pathetic

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shatteredreams's picture
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Jul 18, 2017

I feel your pain Pjacc. I bought a new car thinking it would make me feel better and it did at first. She's a beauty but now I have made a 5 year 'cheer me up' purchase that I can't return. Not to mention it's the same as my ex, so now it's a constant reminder of what was! It sucks!

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Mr.Peanut's picture
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Jul 18, 2017

Don't blame yourself Pjacc, everyone makes mistakes like that. We do stupid things sometimes because of emotions, it can feel right at the time but then it doesn't after the high is gone... So don't blame yourself, blame human nature. :-)

I don't think it's pathetic that you're sharing this with strangers over the Internet, a lot of people I've talked to on this site are pretty lonely also, it's not as uncommon as you think nor as pathetic...

I just feel like you're putting yourself down and that's not the way to go... try being kind and understanding to yourself instead. You were probably just trying to fill some kind of void or just pleasing yourself. Can you still return them? If you can you probably should.

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Mr.Peanut's picture
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Jul 19, 2017

The other reason why I think it's not so pathetic to talk about personal stuff with strangers is because you can share whatever you want without consequences. When you talk to someone you're close to in real life there are always complications and things to consider, like how it's going to affect the relationship? Or the fact that some people are not comfortable with a deeper conversation and might be weirded out. So I don't think it's pathetic at all, it's good for you and you get objective feedback. Plus writing things down is healthy and can help you see things in a different perspective.

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