I'm not doing so well. I'm having problems with my soon to b

I'm not doing so well. I'm having problems with my soon to be 15 year old daughter. My anxiety triggers whenever I even think about her because EVERYTHING becomes a major issue with her. School work, homework, cleaning up after herself, and when I try to punish her for any of the above she tries to act like she runs the house. She tells me to get out of her face when I'm talking, she refuses to go to her room when told. I'm not the type that allows that so I drug her to her room after asking three times. This last time she kicked two holes in her bedroom wall. One after I drug her to the room and the other after I took her radio. I called the police to come out. They let her know she couldn't do those things or she would be arrested and moved from my home. I lost custody of both my daughters a couple years ago because I told the school I was scared about what I would do about my youngest daughters behavior. I was crying out for help, but was treated like a monster so they took her and my very well behaved other daughter who is now 17. They lived with my mom for about a year until I got them back and my youngest daughter terrorized her worse than she does me. I really do not like my daughter and it hurts me as a mother to say about my own daughter. I love her and want what's best for her, but she doesn't want what's best for herself or anyone around her. She doesn't care she just wants what she wants and she has this little entitled attitude if she doesn't get her way she makes your life a living hell. I'm counting the days until she turns eighteen so she can be responsible for herself and I don't have to be terrorized by her behavior anymore.

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Wannabuyaheart's picture
[2015]
Oct 12

I can't take any vacation days from work because I need to save them all for when she is out of school. I definitely can't leave her home alone. My biggest fear she will let someone in my home who will hurt her. She trusts people she shouldn't and she's really naive for friendship from people.

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[35]
Oct 12

I am sorry you are going through this. Have you considered counseling for your daughter and also for the both of you? I would guess there is a deep rooted problem in her life and her acting out is just her way of trying her best to ignore or deal with the problem. The teen years are very hard for teens and for parents and if you haven't already established boundaries and have a good working relationship with each other, it can be even more difficult. I highly recommend you seek out a pastor of a local church or counselor to help you both. Praying for you both as I feel your daughter is struggling with something that has absolutely nothing to do with you, but you happen to be where her anger is directed. ((Hugs))

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Wannabuyaheart's picture
[2015]
Oct 13

She has been in counseling. She's been in outpatient group therapy also. I try everything to help her but she just wants her own way. She doesn't want to be made to do anything and this includes her own schoolwork and cleaning up after herself, or even taking a bath. Then when she loses or doesn't get privelages because of this behavior she wants to get upset and throw a four year old tantrum. I'm tired of bending over backwards for her and she shows zero appreciation. She feels like she is owed everything and with her ugly attitude every day I feel like giving her less. I really enjoy taking my kids on trips, buying them things they like, and taking them skating and such, but the way she acts I just want to give her the basic food clothes and shelter.

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