Hello I'm not sure where else to turn. I'll try to keep it s

Hello I'm not sure where else to turn. I'll try to keep it short. Me and my gf of 4 Years split. It's been an up and down battle for the last month but just last week she confirmed there is no chance anymore. I'm really having a hard time dealing with anxiety in my chest and the sadness. My mind is constantly racing with thoughts and unanswered questions. Trying to see a counselor near me is about a month wait and I can't wait that long.

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cosmic_tide's picture
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Jan 13

What's up Kyle? I haven't been in a relationship in a long time. The last one was a bad ending, and actually a rough middle. There was a baby involved, which turned out not to be mine. Also there were lies and manipulation. The whole thing sucked, and even worse after.

Anyway the first thing that comes to mind is to talk about and get involved with things you like. So find some people with similar interests and start talking. For me movies that really click and are a good distraction help. But other things that are more involved could be better. For the racing thoughts, try doing exercise in the morning. It gets your endorphins going and makes me feel better. My mood for the rest of the day seems more balanced when I do.

What are some of your interests and hobbies? What music, movies, and tv shows are you into? What are things you would like to do but haven't yet? Also what possible dreams would you enjoy pursuing?

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Hi cosmic, thank you for sharing part of your story and im sorry for what you had gone through. You see my biggest road block right now is my job. I am a truck driver so for 11 hours a day all I do is think and think and think. Response to your question, I can't seem to keep plans with anyone and I don't know why. I get hyped about going out then when the time comes I bail. Never been like that since this all started.

I Need to find some sort of a hobby because I feel like this hole just keeps getting deeper. Again thank you

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cosmic_tide's picture
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Jan 20

Ok so you're stuck in a truck all day and you have so much time to think about everything. You could try listening to something so you focus on that. Maybe try stand up comedy, if you like it. Or a podcast or something like that about anything you're interested in, or have wanted to know about. If you can distract yourself so you're not in your head so much that would be a help to start.

If you have the money (because it's an expensive hobby) you might try RC stuff. There's all sorts of cars and even rock climbing trucks. Then you have planes and helicopters. It gets pretty pricy if you get into it. But there is a community for it so you're likely to meet some people doing that.

Also try to find someone pushy to make plans with. Then tell them once you commit not to let you back out. That way there they drag you out of the house if necessary. Even better if it's a group that will give you crap until you just do it.

I hope things get better for you sir. And hope you find something to fill up that hole as well.

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