A co-worker of mine turned me onto a lot of self-improvement

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A co-worker of mine turned me onto a lot of self-improvement books and such, and one that particularly struck me was the 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins. Basically, the premise of the book is that any time you are unsure of doing something, you count backwards from five in your head and either dive headfirst into it or cut off the idea. This will be very helpful for a guy who has chronic indecisiveness, and wants to take his life back. For anyone interested in it, it is really worth the time.

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Feb 14

A quick story on indecisiveness. I had a country home. There were only two ways to get to it. Both were of equal distance. The only difference was which farms I'd pass. One day on my way home I was struck hard with indecisiveness. I was at the traffic light that would decide which route and suddenly I couldn't make up my mind. I was near panic, so much so that when the light turned green I sat there not going anywhere.

The incident shook me to my core. Why was there any issue at all? I never decided which route. I was so overwhelmed with sitting at a green light that I just went straight. There was no longer a choice to make.

To clarify, I was later diagnosed with an infection that invaded my brain. A few years of antibiotics and I was up and running again. The point here isn't the infection. It taught me that decision making is a function of a particular part of the brain. If decisions are difficult for you it is not a weakness, or character flaw, or being too flighty to make up your mind. It's brain wiring.

I don't know if that tidbit will help you, but it helped me to focus on that brain function rather than the choices and then I was able to come to my decisions. They say when you focus on your brain parts that they get more blood flow and thus more oxygen.

I do like the five count idea. I don't know why it should make a decision easier other than giving yourself time and a distraction. I don't have indecisiveness any more, but I think I can apply that to some other brain issues I suffer. I hope things work out for you.

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Feb 14

That is awesome, I am totally going to try that!

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Feb 14

@IDontKnowMyName I appreciate your input. I know that every behavior usually has a nature or nurture explanation, but I didn`t really think of my indecisiveness as a brain chemistry issue. Very insightful. And as for the 5 Second Rule, I believe the premise of its effectiveness is that in five seconds, your brain is already trying to talk you out of the activity you are trying to do.

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