One of my aunts is in her last few months of life. My father

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One of my aunts is in her last few months of life. My father sister. She and her husband have been sending texts for years and now it’s supposed to be the last few months. I don’t know because this is been going on for years but now it seems like it’s getting close to the end. It’s very stressful to me because I feel helpless. I don’t know what to say or do. I’m just telling my dad I’m praying for her. When it comes to death, I had no experience with it up close until I watched my mother pass away March 10, 2019.
Ever since then, I’ve had a different feeling about it. A fear that wasn’t there before. And to think about knowing that you’re going to go for months or years with some terminal illness seems like the worst way to go.
I know everyone wants to go in their sleep ,so that would be ideal but I just want it to be quick. I don’t want it to be a drawn out thing that I know is coming.
It’s just so sad.
I have been studying more than ever and it seems like I might not get the chance to get chronologically old because the world is ending soon. Who knows?
Look at the world. Look how much has happened in last 100 yrs compared to thousands of years.
It’s not just because we got smarter.
Well .. I am bummed and would like to connect to someone here tonight. If you have the time. Thanks.

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LollyNews's picture
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Apr 8

@Foundlove hi there. Thanks for the response. Yes. I know. I remember hearing my uncle talking about Jesus coming back since I was a child and I’m 49 now. So I figured I would just study it out of entertainment partly I am in the books a lot instead of moving around. So, am I funny dad, yeah he is a character. When I was 20 and went into my first rehab and did my first meeting, I sat in the back. They called on me to talk and I started talking. I ended up putting my head down and when I finish talking and raise my Head up everybody had turned around and was staring at me. And then they start ask me after the meeting if that was my real dad. Because he was so terrible. Oh
I heard from him today about his thoughts on what I said about liking being single. Because I do like being single. And he said some mumbo-jumbo stuff. And I’m leaving it at that because the thing is that when you are recovering addict, you have to practice self-care and you have to love yourself to do it. So that and my load is light because I give it to God. So I don’t need anyone to carry my load. LOL… But sure for companionship if I meet someone easy breezy. My mom was the easiest person to get along with and carried more than half the load. More like 95%
I am preparing myself to be strong to deal with whatever happens but definitely would love to see some normality for a while. :-)

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Apr 10

@LollyNews I’m sorry to hear about your mom and your dad’s behavior. Letting your dad know that you’re praying for his sister is fine. You don’t need to do more than that. Death is so personal and everyone has to prepare for it in their own way.

Because someone dies in a particular way (even someone in your family) does not mean you will die that way. Your best approach to thinking about your passing is to maintain a very positive view of your health at all times. Your body responds to your thoughts and will create illness or wellness depending on your predominant thoughts about it.

The earth is not coming to an end in the next 100 years. That’s not why we’re here. We will however have to face some tough times because of the damage we’ve done to the environment and the toxic relationships among people we’ve created in the US.

You dad’s view of you is only his view. Don’t “buy into it.” Create your own view of yourself that is positive and healthy. You do that by maintaining good feeling thoughts about you during your day and you will become happy and peaceful. Then keep those positive thoughts active in you at all times. Happiness, peacefulness and love are who you really are.

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Apr 10

@kgmaxwell hi. Thank you for your positive response. I agree. I did to convince him to get on the road and go see your sister. So he’s with her now. I am definitely new only naturally happy personality. The glass half full mentality. So it’s not hard for me to go there. You are on the right track. ;-)

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