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So i need to confess something as well as share more informa

So i need to confess something as well as share more information about my story. About a 2 weeks ago I confronted my wife that I knew all about her affair and intentions. I told her she has to tell me the truth about everything if we are going to work past this or schedule marriage counseling she hasn't schedule marriage cousnling and about 2 days ago I force the issue. She came clean with minimal details but hasn't told me everything and blamed me and stopped the conversation because she was feeling like crap. She hasn't offered any solutions or ways forward. Additional we flew her childhood best friend down who has been discussed with her lately as well as what has been going on. She has been informing me of a second OM in my wife's life that was ended because he felt bad because he was in a relationship, only reason it ended. I am so upset but can't relieve any of the pressure and anxiety because i need to remain calm for the kids. June is not coming soon enough were the kids will be up in my parents I can real deal with this point blank. I giving her one change to come clean and then be done, it really sucks because she spent all my money stuff. Add in While my wife was out, me and her friend got drunk and end up engaging in heavy make out session because we were both drunk and she keep being nice (haven't had that) we both agreed we can't but it was a moment of weakness on our parts. So I have guilt building up in me from that as well. I have completely screwed up...worst of all I am still in love with my wife. I have noticed with each lie that love fades.

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Henrietta606's picture
[15600]
May 15

@muppetlab best friend needs to go home. This is between you and your wife. I'm sure it's flattering that you are getting that kind of attention after you wife cheated but it's just that, an infatuated inflated sense of feeling wanted vs the wife's attentions elsewhere. Her best friend is no friend at all. Not to your wife and not to you showing her true colors as a supposed friend. A friend would help your wife see that you're a good catch and help her try and make steps to mend what is broken in your marriage. Send her packing. That said, maybe you should have a real heart to heart and tell your wife what happened. maybe the thought of losing you will shock her into reality and it may make her open up about her own affairs seeing that she's not the only one that makes mistakes. Be vulnerable to each other it will help build a stronger bond. Be honest w/ your feelings. Relationships built on lies and eggshells are for the birds.

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Henrietta606's picture
[15600]
May 15

@Scat so true. Never thought of it that way....

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zen-man's picture
[7580]
May 16

@Scat Yeah, my thought is, in perfect Admiral Ackbar style, "It's a trap!!!" She could be trying to give your wife an out, as in, "see, you cheated too!"

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