So can someone please tell me I’m not in the wrong for hav

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So can someone please tell me I’m not in the wrong for having to cut communication with a friend I’ve known for a few years now, they made very graphic sexual comments to me a few times, twice in less then an hour maybe and they know I have a boyfriend and he a girlfriend, it was so graphic and I thought even when you have a partner you don’t make such sexual comments to someone, especially when they aren’t returning it or even giving you those signals, they made me so uncomfortable I had to block this person and even delete the comments, I rang my partner and had to wake him up because I was feeling anxious and uncomfortable, violated almost, it was not nice. Felt sexualised.

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Jan 19

@DD Delgado. That's not true. I see them getting offended about compliments about their looks, when they get called "cute" for example. I see that very often in social media. They say they go harassed and they show the message of a guy saying they look cute or beautiful. Invitation does not require consent by the way. We all get invited to things and we can just "yes" or "no". Why would anyone get offended by being invited to anything?

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Jan 19

@JohnLF well not everyone will get offended because I don’t? If anyone calls me cute or whatever I’ll take it as a compliment it’s either if they keep pushing when I’ve said no when I’ll get offended or if they make the compliment into something vulgar, no matter who it is someone I find attractive or not I’ll not like it, I was saying to my partner if I was single and someone came up to me who was my ‘type’ and was being really disrespectful and gross I’d be like back off and same goes if it was someone I didn’t find to be my type but if the same two came to me and said I looked pretty I’d accept them both with a smile and feel good :) it’s how it’s said and what is said that’s important to me

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Jan 19

@Littlered988 Yes, i wasn't talking about you and i didn't mean everyone gets offended by it, maybe i should have made that more clear. Anyone insisting in anything when you already said "no" it's a violation of consent and it's normal to be offended by that, because it can be really annoying. I understand what you mean.

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