I think my husband is about to get fired. It's been coming

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I think my husband is about to get fired. It's been coming for a while but seems like it's on the horizon. I would say within the next 30 days. He's not handling it well, not that anyone would. But he already is depressed and anxious and this has put him over the edge.

If this were any other person, it would be upsetting, even down right depressing. But for him, it's devastating and I'm not sure he'll recover this time. He's never been fired before, but he has lost jobs (lay offs). I helped him get through and did everything to get him in a new job. All he had to do was show up for interviews and talk to recruiters. I'm not sure I can do that this time. I'm not sure how to handle the "fired" aspect of it all. But I know he won't be able to do it. He's already said as much. So the responsibility will fall on me again.

I'm so exhausted. My anxiety is through the roof and I'm insanely depressed right now. My emotions are so sensitive that I find everything makes me tear up. There is so much else going on with me right now. I really need him to step up and handle this himself. But I can't make him. And we need his income and benefits. So...it will fall on me.

I'm just not sure how much more I can handle. I'm holding onto the hope that maybe he will pull through this, but at the moment, it seems very unlikely.

How am I supposed to be the strong one when I'm feeling so weak?

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[3585]
Oct 11

:( my dad had severe depression because his company was bankrupt. He hadn't got a job in 2 years. But now he's working again and starts seeing some progress. Your problems may seem unending, but that's not true. There's always a way

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[7210]
Oct 11

@bm9787 Thank you. This isn't our first experience with job loss. My husband lost his job about 3 years ago due to no fault of his own. That time, it was simply a layoff due to the company's financial struggles. Shortly after he was cut, the entire division was shut down. He was lucky to get a decent severance package with that deal. However, this is different. He has been struggling for a while now with both severe anxiety and depression and it's affected his work performance. His company has been somewhat patient, but in his field, sadly they can't be too patient. He has a very short period of time to turn things around and it seems unlikely that he will be able to do it. I'm trying to be optimistic, but it would be a very bad time for him to lose his job...not that there is ever a good time. And I worry that he won't be able to get back up if he falls down this time. I desperately wish he would seek help for his depression/anxiety/everything else going on with him.

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[3585]
Oct 12

@comfortablynumb my thoughts are with you

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