So I have been depressed for the passed week or so. Every We

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So I have been depressed for the passed week or so. Every Wednesday we have a family meeting with my partners family through zoom. Last Wednesday one of his cousins who is 27 told us that he is asking his girlfriend of a but over a year to marry him. I said congratulations and then left to the room. My partner is so clueless and doesn’t realize why I am upset. The reason I am upset is because we have been together for going on 7 years now. He pretty much became my son who was one at the times father since his bio dad wasn’t in the picture. He lived about an hour away and I didn’t have a car but he always took the time to come and see me a lot. At the time I was 24 and he was 33. Due to the distance he started spending the night and before we new ithe started living with my parents, brother, and us. About 3 years into our relationship I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. He has always made pretty decent money so we started looking for an apartment and found one not that expensive with 2 bedrooms. He said for us to start saving for a house. Anyways I guess my main reason I was upset is because we have had talks about marriage before but he always says no that we need to buy a house first.
I have friends that have gotten married firsf but don’t have children so it is not that hard. Idk if I am over thinking this. I do start getting things in my head and start thinking that maybe the house thing is an excuse and he doesn’t want to marry me.
Idk I am constantly scared he will leave.

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andine's picture
(69510)
Jun 16

you May want to speak with a lawyer about financial matters. As far as mental health concerns it might help you personally to see a therapist. It is understandable that you want definition in your relationship and you deserve it to protect you and your daughter. It is important to have agreements defined and in writing in case of any unforeseen emergency.

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CKBlossom's picture
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Jun 17

Are you buying this house together?  I would think that buying a house together is a commitment in itself, but if marriage is important to you and not to him, then that is an issue.  You have to want the same things or come to an agreement.  

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