My boyfriend and I met when I was 16 and he was 19. We've be

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My boyfriend and I met when I was 16 and he was 19. We've been together 3 years now. He's an alcoholic. I never knew when we first started dating because I was young and just getting into the partying scene. About a year or so into our relationship I started to notice he was taking his drinking to the extreme. We have an almost 1 year old now and got engaged a few days ago. Here lately his drinking has gotten so much worse than it ever has been, he said completely checked out and he's so cold towards me. I've been trying to hard to help him see that he has a problem and he knows he does, he said he just doesn't care to change. I try to be supportive, I walk on eggshells just so I don't do anything to make his drinking worse. It's literally an everyday thing, passing out is the only thing that makes him stop. Hes on a downward spiral and I have no idea what to do for him. He also has some depression which is made worse by the alcohol. All I want is for him to grow up and see what he's doing to himself and the people around him. I want him to be the man I know he's capable of being. If something doesn't change soon I'll have to leave him and keep his son away and that's not what I want. I don't want to be the mom who keeps her child away from his farther and I don't want to break my family up. I love him so much it hurts. I feel so hopeless anymore. I have no one to talk to because unless you've been in the situation with someone nobody can understand. I just need advice and to vent every once in a while

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Oct 10

Welcome to SG! I would certainly think long and hard about getting married to this man, until he seriously addresses his drinking problem. As I was reading your post, the one idea that stayed in my mind was Al-Anon. It's an organization that supports the family and friends of the alcoholic. Many of your questions can be answered through association within the meetings. It's a life changing experience. Look for a meeting in your area and by all means, go. The Alcohol group welcomes you and encourages you to do some reading and lots of posting. As you reach out to support others you will find that your own questions find answers. At the bottom of the page there is a "FAQ" button, this will help you navigate the site. If you have any questions, simply post them and a member will answer as soon as possible. Make yourself at home here. We all know how hard it is to ask for help. We are very pleased to have you join in with us. See you on the threads!

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