New mommy here! I am currently a mother of a 3 yr old. I rec

New mommy here! I am currently a mother of a 3 yr old. I recently found out I was pregnant & currently feeling slightly depressed and alone. Finances aren't on my side currently and upon looking up adoption, I have been crying for the past 20 minutes. I wanted to look up support groups and see if this was normal and see if I'm not the only one experienceing this. There's so much that plays a part in the reason I chose to think about adoption but I don't know if it's right for me. Has anyone experienced this before? Right now I just feel like a ball of mush....

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[830]
Aug 24

Congratulations on your pregnancy and not wanting to abort her or him and thinking about adoption! However I am sorry to hear about the circumstance you are in right now. Are you married or have a boyfriend, maybe a best friend or family/ friends? I am asking only see if you have some close support. No, you are not alone! A lot of people go through the very same thing you are describing here. These are tough questions you are thinking and asking about. It is okay to cry, it is apart of the healing process. You are not alone in considering about your finances either. Everyone has some sort of financial situation that they have to figure out too. It sounds like here you could use to talk to a real person by phone. I would like to give you a phone number that is a great starting place. This is a free counseling call, they will listen and help you find the right resources and tools and get you started on the right path.
I also want to commend you on looking for help and wanting to do what is right! I know being pregnant alone, is hard enough then adding the emotions and being a mom to a toddler and trying to figure life out on top of it all, is quite the job! My hat is off to you! Keep your chin up, there is light at the end of the tunnel!
FOF- 1-800-232-6459 : I hope you will give them a call, I have called them about my own circumstances before. I was amazed and what they did for me, I wanted to give back and help others too!

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[9375]
Aug 24

You have time to decide on adoption, especially if you decided not to have an abortion.

I am not pro-life, I am 100% pro-choice and believe that adoption is a great choice for some people.

If you are in the US there are TONS of resources available to help you decide what is best for you and you baby.

There are lots of things to consider, and lots of options for open or closed adoptions. With another child it makes the decision even harder and more complex.

I know the idea of not raising your baby is a huge loss. But try to think of gift you could give to a family who has not been able to build a family themselfs.

Many adoptions now are open, which I think is great, but also really hard too. You can get periodic updates, and know how the baby is doing. But at the same time it hard to see your baby with their parents.

I applaud you for thinking about the child, and wanting the best for them.

Single motherhood is not easy, but it is not the worst thing either. Like others said it can help you get the drive to work your best, and maybe get the finances under control.

Breath, reach out to a support system, and start searching out places to help you make an informed decision. FOF might be a great place to start, or even local churches (If you do not have one of your own), or even seeking out a planned parenthood or local free pregnancy clinics in your area.

You can't have too much info when making this kind of decision. Many women's clinics and hospitals have some info on adoption too, and can get you started in the right direction fo making an informed choice, and deciding what will work best for you.

Huggs, but I am sure that if you take time to lean your options, when the time comes, either to keep or adopt, you will have peace in your decision.

Many states even allow parents a few months after signing papers to change their mind, because it is a life long choice your making.

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[830]
Aug 25

Congratulations on your pregnancy and not wanting to abort her or him and thinking about adoption! However I am sorry to hear about the circumstance you are in right now. Are you married or have a boyfriend, maybe a best friend or family/ friends? I am asking only see if you have some close support. No, you are not alone! A lot of people go through the very same thing you are describing here. These are tough questions you are thinking and asking about. It is okay to cry, it is apart of the healing process. You are not alone in considering about your finances either. Everyone has some sort of financial situation that they have to figure out too. It sounds like here you could use to talk to a real person by phone. I would like to give you a phone number that is a great starting place. This is a free counseling consultation.... they will listen and help you find the right resources and tools and get you started on the right path.
I also want to commend you on looking for help and wanting to do what is right! I know being pregnant alone, is hard enough then adding the emotions and being a mom to a toddler and trying to figure life out on top of it all, is quite the job! My hat is off to you! Keep your chin up, there is light at the end of the tunnel!
FOF- 1-800-232-6459 : I hope you will give them a call, I have called them about my own circumstances before. I was amazed and what they did for me, I wanted to give back and help others too!

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