Hello! I wasn't sure whether to sign up to this group, I'm n

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Hello! I wasn't sure whether to sign up to this group, I'm new on the site. I first signed up to anxiety and depression groups, and have received such a warm welcome that I've decided to post here too.
My situation is of subtle, chronic verbal abuse from my partner. I try not to think about it, because I'm embarassed and angry at myself for not being able to lleave him, and alot of the time I don't even want to. But I know it's mining my self esteem and sense of worth. Can anyone relate?

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Apr 16

@Miss Jamie, Thanks for your support. Unfortunately, for me, recognising things doessn't necessarily mean I can act upon them. I find myself avoiding thinking about it until he's really in action. I have been with him for 9 years now, and it started subtly shortly after we got together, in those days I used to think constantly about leaving him, but the years have passed and it¨s harder and harder to imagine life without him. It's scary with him but even scarier is the thought of being alone.

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Apr 17

Hi @Sasalex so sorry to hear what you are going through. Wish I could give you a hug and tell you that you are truly worthy of love that builds up rather than tear down. As suggested already maybe you should consider looking for another therapist who might be better able to support you and give you new strategies to help you deal with this situation. Also do you think he will be willing to go for counselling with you or by himself because the reality is he also really needs help. You have come a long way and succeeded, this shows how strong you really are.

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Apr 17

I was going to suggest looking into narcissism and emotional abuse, but I see that has been suggested. Don't be so hard on yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of, especially here. If you are afraid to leave, that could be a product of the abuse you are experiencing. You have come far enough to admit it is happening, that is the first step. If the description of a narc fits, there is a great group here for that and also one for emotional abuse you might want to check out.

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