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Has anyone read, or is anyone currently reading "The body keeps the score"? What're your thoughts?

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May 25

@fiesty3bme I'm so sorry. Every woman in my family has been sexually assaulted in some way. My best friend was molested as well as my sister and aunt. They used to say 1 in 5 women will be assaulted by a family member, but I feel like that number has changed over time. I understand exactly what you mean. It really is a life sentence. We determine our release date though I think. It's in our hands to heal ourselves. Talking about it can be the hardest part, but naming it helps it lose its power some. That's true, the simplest forms of compassion can do wonders for someone suffering in silence.

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May 25

Thanks. I’m sorry that every woman in your family has been sexually assaulted. I agree that the number has changed. However, I think that I’m order for women to feel safe to talk about it. We have to take the shame out of it. And people have to take their judgmental thoughts out of it. I’ll give you a few examples. When I talked with one of my aunts about it she said that you are lucky that’s all he did to you (she’s talking about the uncle that molested me). And when I was raped I was told by her “I don’t believe you”. Even when I reported my rapes to the police I was met with judgement. Naming it does help. Although I have named it I haven’t chosen how to let my experiences lose it’s power. I’m still working on it. Society needs to create an environment for anyone to feel safe. I suffer from severe depression and I don’t have much support. It’s very lonely. I think if people would take the time to understand depression and other mental illnesses then the world would be a better place. Sometimes when people including myself struggle with it. We can forget the wonderful individual that we are. Yes, depression is really hard. We all have our down times, but finding what can give us some relief can help. If we think of how wonderful we are that can help. Sometimes for me, and not saying this is the best case but sometimes it helps for me to acknowledge that I am having a rough time, and letting me deal with those thoughts can help me. And sometimes it helps me to take the extra care that I need. One of the things that I keep in mind is that I have mental illness that it doesn’t have me. I don’t let it stop me from my accomplishments. If mental illness is discussed more than people would be surprised to know how many others have depression. Sometimes I pay it forward. Even when I’m having a rough day, I still continue to smile at people, I still ask them how are they are doing. I realize that during those moments of deep depression that I’m here for a reason. And if nobody loves me, God does. Even if you are not religious someone on this earth loves me/you.

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May 25

Hi, I can’t speak for everyone. However, I can say with research and I myself victims of sexual abuse tend to act out. And if you have other issues over top of it then I would see why an individual could become a narcissist. I am a victim of abuse so I can understand (mental and physical at times) in some ways why she might be a narcissist. A person might want attention because he/she doesn’t feel good about him/herself. And the attention can be a confidence boost. And maybe the extra attention may make her feel things that people haven’t said about her. For example, someone could have told her that she was really ugly. However, having a man acknowledge her, look at her may have made her feel pretty. And it can be the opposite of what she has been told. And I feel that some of the extra attention that he has received may be a factor. Im sorry that you and your ex wife had those issues. And I’m am in no way condoning what she did, and I’m not speaking for anyone besides myself. I’m just trying to give you information/an opinion.

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