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Hi everyone im new here & i must say my head is spinning rea

Hi everyone im new here & i must say my head is spinning reading all this & other material on narcissism last few days. I was up until recently in a 2.5 year relationship with a man whom literally has checked every box describing narcissism only problem is im just now putting two and two together . Over the course of 2.5 years i have been alienated from friends , blamed for his heart attack amongst anything else that hasn t gone right, dealt with rapid i mean rapid mood changes, walking on egg shells, have never once heard im sorry despite cold hard evidence of his wrongdoing , and have beome a shell of the human being i once was left with pain, doubts, & shock. All this time i knew that this relationship was taking a great deal of energy to maintain , i was starting to notice i was accepting n doing things i said i never would in a relationship to maintain peace which often wasn t enough & that something wasn t quite right i drew the conclusion he had just been hurt, and abandoned , everyone has always walked out on him he just needs someone to show him unconditional love, and support and that life doesn t have to be the chaotic , turmoil he seems to create . I literally gave my heart n soul into that mission and im here to tell youi am literally no closer now than i was 2.5 years ago at pleasing this man or creating stability for him . 5 days ago i made it clear i was unhappy and that i thought it best we move on separately. He has in 5 days not spoken to me once as i try n sort out the details of splitting up ( shared apt, shared bills, who get s what ) etc , he is here & walks around as if he can t see me , has trashed me at his work where i am very much friends with his coworkers to a point where when 2 saw me today wouldn t even look at me & they were just in my home a week ago . Anyway the more n more i read the more i think got **** it why didn t i see this , i knew something wasn t right but i ignored it . Now i just need to get away n try n rebuild my life

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Jan 13

@Krisvill82 Keep us posted on how it's going. You're doing great, hang in there.

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Jan 13

@AlabamaGuy you're right. I broke it because of the pain of addiction. Your post is spot on

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[5145]
Jan 13

Welcome! And you have all of our support. Your relationship is just like my marriage. Walking on eggshells so I dont set her off. Do this and that so I dont set her off. I've done things in my marriage I wouldn't do either and one of em could affect my job. It's not good. It's scary to feel this way and to be scared of what could or will happen.

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