My husband is in rehab. I just got a call saying he wants a

My husband is in rehab. I just got a call saying he wants a divorce because he blames me for using. He says I made him miserable by begging him to get help for his previous mental issues. Is it normal for people in recovery to blame others as a stage of recovery or a symptom of withdrawal? I let him him know I wouldnt sign divorce papers because I made a promise to be there for him no matter what. But Im in shock at this point.

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Mar 22

I read a book called His Needs Her Needs. It talked about two scenarios that make people act crazy. Infidelity and substance abuse. These two situations cause chemical changes in a person that make them act and say crazy things. It could be withdraw. I'm with you also. I refuse to sign any paperwork because I made a vow to my wife in front of God. I do not take that lightly and I will let my children and the whole world know that I stand firm FOR marriage.

22 hours ago

@Abbyj214 look people in general like to blame things on others because to take responsibility for their own actions is far beyond their capabilities. I realize you love this guy but honestly he’s toxic to you

1 hour ago

Abby, I know it's hard. I too am deeply depressed and often think about dying but just don't have the nerve to kill myself. The one thing I can tell you is that there is nothing you can do in this relationship. These are his issues that he needs to deal with there is nothing you can do to make it easier or harder for him. The only thing you can do is make it easier for yourself and at this point it sounds like the only way you can do that is remove yourself from being around him until he can get his act together.


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