empty and alone
Hi Ladies, I have been looking for a site to try to figure out this new life I was handed. I lost my husband of 32 years 1month and 3 days ago... While I am no stranger to loss this is so different. I lost my son 5.5 years ago to a vehicle accident. he was an amazing young man and now the most amazing man in my life is gone also. How do you fill your nites how do you not cry all the time. I promised god that if he let me know Kyle (my son) crossed Jim (my hubby) over I would be ok so I really have to be, I just do not know how. we were a family of four and now we are down to my daughter and I and I am just so lost and feel so all alone...Hugs to all Juie
I am so sorry we are in this mess Jules. I too lost my husband 18 days ago to cancer. The overwhelming lonliness is what gets me the most. I can be in a room full of people and still feel lonley. All I can tell you dear is pray, pray and then pray some more. Then stand on God's promise that he will bring us peace.
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died last April and I still cannot believe the he is gone. We were married almost 29 years and we have 2 grown kids. I can remember right after he died, I felt physically empty. That feeling has subsided but now I feel so alone. My daughter moved back home after Mike died, and that does help but I still miss him so much. It helps me when I keep a journal and I can write my feelings down. I also have a fantastically supportive family and a great supervisor. I don't know what to tell you on how to get through this. Only that time does heal but you will never forget. You just learn how to live a different life.
Loneliness is so very hard to combat. It amazes me how one can become so overwhelmed by it. Being one instead of two changes everything. I too have felt alone in a crowd. I just finished writing to another widow on this sight about finding a group for widows. Neither she nor I have been able to find one but I think it is a big solution. None of my friends are widows so they cannot understand where I am coming from. Making friends with another widow would be great and so very comforting. Although they don't have them here, I understand many churches run such groups. Calling Hospice is another solution. They have lists of groups being run in the area. I have also seen some listed online. Good Luck!