Wives of men that have/had prostrate conditons.
Hi, I really need the feedback of wives that have had husbands with prostrate conditions. My husband had surgery in July of this year--complications x"s many. We haven't gone for the 3 mo p/op visit yet however, how do I deal with a man that thinks he has lost his manhood for good. He has left home 2x"s for 3 days went out drinking and just not communication with me or any other family until he was ready--I am on an emotional rollercoaster with his emotions not coming to grip with the surgery of the potential outcome--How do I deal with a man/husband that is literally pushing me away when all I want to do is help?? I am in this too I take our marriage vows very seriously--for better, for worse, in sickness and in health til death do us part! How,How do I manage my emotions without completing losing it--I'm seeing a therapist right now he isn't until next week provided he doesn't skip town again. Please let me hear from you. Thanks
My partner had prostate surgery 8 years ago and he has had a very difficult time trying to get "close" to me all these years. He has felt like he would get better with time, but has not. I feel like I want more intimacy, but instead of getting closer, we have grown further apart. I have suggested counseling, but he always finds reasons not to go. I tried counseling myself, but found it difficult to accomplish anything without his involvement. I felt that maybe with some support, I wouldn't feel so alone. Thank you for your input.
My Husband had surgery 2 years ago and I can relate to what you are saying, its not that we don't do the "act" its being close to him that is not happening. To top it off his leg is swelling and its as hard as a rock. Dr has him on fluid pills but that just makes him go but the leg says the same. How do you stay up when he is so down?
I would be willing to talk to you as i am 3 years into dealing with this from a wifes viewpoint. Let me say first that i am very sorry that you are dealing with prostate cancer and and i heartily hope and pray that your husband is cancer free now? Please write and share if you wish. My husband is fairly young ( he was 53 at time of diagnosis) and his gleason was an 8, his cancer is an aggressive one. He has had surgery followed by Lupron and a year later by salvage radiation and more lupron. Its been a long difficult journey but so far he has had 2 good psa tests. As you may have experienced, it has totally destroyed our intimate life and it seems highly doubtful that we will ever have that again but there is always hope!