Husband Addicted to Meth
About 6 months ago I learned or should I say found out that my husband of 12 years has been doing meth. At first I was shocked but then I went into "I can fix this mode" and ever since then I have been struggling with what I have found out. He not only is a drug addict but also a porn addict plus a few other addictions.
He will interact with his video cam and go into these porn chat rooms and masturbate for hours (5-6 hrs) everyday and sometime nights. I know that these addictions are the cause of the meth use but it's killing me inside that he would rather see porn then to have sex with me. Is the pleasure different that having sex with your spouse.
The anxiety that I am going through is unbearable and I just don't know what to do? We have a 10 year old and that he seems to care and love alot but not enough to quit his addictions.
Can anyone of you give an insight to what I am going through? Should I leave him for that he can hit rock bottom?
Any comments will help at this moment.
Thank you :)
Thanks Foxy....He's one of your mellow addicts. I have been in his face when he has been usuing and when he is coming down from it. But you're right about leaving.
I will be moving out and he will be moving out of state. I fear that once his family and his so called friends can't handle his addictions he will come looking for us. I have been the bread winner for the past 5 years so he knows what he is losing. Free internet, food, housing, water and clean clothes. All he did was pick up our son from school and hey complained about that now I know because it interuptrd his jacking off time.
He let all go to waste. He was self employed lost that. Had a loving family he's losing that. Hope his parents can help because right now that's all he has for support.
I at first I thought I was the cause of his sex drive in the bedroom now I know he's too tired to perform because he's been jacking off all day long.
Oh how I hate Meth and how it's distroyed my marriage.
you are a strong and independant woman. in the end you will be happier and healthier. that really sad about the whole thing with getting your son. he definately has it made.with you working and taking care of EVERYTHING. i bet your plum exhausted. its hard trying to keep up with everything. its rough enough that your working all day and then come home to clean a house and take care of everything else. you may have to get a restraining order on him so he cant go near you and your son. his family will probably get tired of it. if your saying they will then im sure they will because wives know their husbands better then anyone else. besides any person that is working hard isnt going to want to deal with that. im sorry im getting my feathers riled. i just feel so bad for you because its not fair to you and your son to go through this. thank you for coming here and sharing your story with us. i noticed you are new as well. welcome to the group. there really are wonderful people here and they give wonderful advice feel free to vent anytime. wishin you the best you and your son will be in my prayers
It's been 2 1/2 weeks since we separated. He is living now with realtives out of state and I have rented a place for my son and I to live. My son seems to be adapting very well to the change, he's happier seems to be more relaxed. I do notice that he seems to want me in the same room as he and gets upset if I am on th phone and not paying attention to him.
I have spoken to my husband a few time since he left and nothing has changed. He still up to his addictions but let's see how long that will last. He has decided not to speak to either of us because he tells his relatives that it's to painful to hear our voices but the last time I spoke to him which was a week ago he said he wanted nothing to do with me because I am a crazy person that wants to control him. He wants a divorce today and then cries to whomever will listen that he misses us and wants to make everything better.
I just don't understand how his realtives are not pushing for him to do something with his life. He not working nor going to school. It seems like he's on vacation no resposibilty at all. How long will this last?
It's only been a couple of weeks and I feel lost with my emotions. Do I give up on him and cut all his family ties from us? What is the best thing for me to do right now with him? Should I not have any contact with him until he gets medical help? I have so many questions?
I need to get on with my life and stop worrying about what my husband will do next. I need to move forward and not look back (much easier said then done) but it's so dang hard knowing that our future together will never come.