I'm lonely as fuck!
I could be on the moon right now in an astronaut suit, by myself with no radio contact, that's how lonely I am. Tomorrow I'll go to work & suffer through anxiety for 9 hours, then I'll come home, wash, rinse, repeat.
I generally have a positive attitude but I'm so sick of not having anyone in my life.
I am going to say something that I've had to come to terms with the last two years. No matter who you are around or how many people are making time for you, you will always be alone. This feeling of alone is part of being human and some people are capable of acting like it isn't there or thinking other people fix it but it's not true.
If you focus on accepting yourself and that you're really Okay with being alone you then allow your guard to fall down. Constantly thinking about it and focusing on it then makes it sooo much bigger. It's when you least expect it you find people who mean the most. If you're looking, you may be trying to hard and missing it.
I spent three years not leaving the house because I was so uncomfortable with myself that I felt like EVERYONE would reject me. I was on a community like this one where I met people who I was able to open up to and be myself with. This then made it okay to be myself more and more in every day life. I still have anxiety and depression but I try harder to focus on feeling good and moving forward.
I don't know if that helped but I understand as much as someone can and this was my point of view on it.
I disagree. Yes we are all alone if you want to get philosophical about it, but there's the cold reality of going extended periods of time with no one to talk to or going without a certain amount of affection or attention. That's not ok.
I appreciate your post.
My example or comments were based on my experience and while they may not apply to you in your situation, I still felt to try and encourage you with what I had gone through.
The main point of my post is that if you are dealing with your anxiety in yourself you'll be more comfortable around people. Thus making it easier to meet new social aspects.
I read this article where this guy was really shy and had anxiety over asking girls out. He decided for the next month his goal was to ask out 100 girls no matter what their response was. I believe he was pleasantly surprised by how many said yes ESPECIALLY after he had gained confidence that being told NO was not as hard as he originally thought,
My problem was I felt unnatractive and overweight and so I didn't want the rejection of anyone I felt I was close too. I decided I couldn't change anything over night and I didnt want to be alone. So I changed it and how I thought about it.
I'm sorry if my post doesn't help or make you feel better. I know how you feel and I hated feeling alone all the time. I hope you can find some good people to put in your life.