Today I am so overwhelmed with emotions with trying to decide to stay or go!!
It's been 7 months since I found out about my husband having an affair with a co-worker, another female that he had a "fling" (what ever that means), with and was on a singles website chating. (he said he never met anybody off of that site)..
We have been together 12 years and there were some signs of some things early in the relationship but I trusted him and thought nothing too much of those incidents at that time, but now I know that he probabbly cheated then too I just didn't know about it...
He does seem to be sorry for what he did and is pretty much trying to blame me and that I didn't care about him and she made him feel special..and he did finally admit he was being selfish... but my thing is you cheated with several women .... Did I make you feel that bad??!! NOT possible! We had our issues but not like that! The woman that he had an affair with he told her that he loved her and bought her a diamond necklace (cheap one), and spent quality time with her and took pictures with her around town where we live an acted like he was in a relationship with her. He says it's over.. but not sure if I believ him.. I got a call the other day from an unknown woman and she said that he doesnt love me and he is going to leave me... He is mad about the call and says that it is NOT her because she wouldn't do that kind of thing! So I have my doubts and wonder if I should stay or leave..I dont want to go through this again and I feel like he will do it again! :(
Nothing in life that is worth it, is easy. I really want you to understand that it was his CHOICE and that he needs to own it. It will be your CHOICE to stay with him. You will have to own it. Both decisions have fall out. I wish you nothing but the best.
THANKS MARLEY'S DADDY!
sodamhurt - am glad your letting everything thats being said sink in for a while, thats what all of us had to do too.....give yourself time & when ready, spend your valuable time researching other living options (quietly), this can be accomplished online, ducks in a row, focus on YOU, dont waste precious time trying to catch someone who will be caught...eventually.....you're worth more then that hon, scoop yourself up & show folks how an independent/mature woman handles business (& LOSERS)..... use this experience as a gateway to a wiser woman.....go through that door hon, life is waiting for you.....