I cheated on my wife with her sister...
There is nothing more to say than that. Of course she is going to leave me. I hurt her in the worst way. Our two little girls will have to pay for my sins also. I just needed to get this out there. If you pray, please pray for my wife and our girls.
i agree with brokenlove,first you have to forgive/repair yourself. get some help, there is a reason why it happened. it does matter what you do now, you are a parent and your girls need a healthy dad. you may not be able to change how you wife feels but you can regain respect for yourself and show your children how to learn from mistakes and continue to live a mature, responsible life.
it's not so much about the bad choices we make, but how we recover from them. you acted wrongly, you're sorry. now learn how to be a better parent/person. we all raise our children making mistakes, we have to show them the best way to live and grow.
Thank you. I was in a very dark place yesterday. I retreat when I get down and was doing so for the past few days and was going down a very wrong path. It means so very much to know that someone somewhere gives a damn, not because you have to but because you choose to. So thank you for responding. This a daily, hourly and moment by moment struggle... I love her with my whole heart and want to do whatever it takes to heal the wounds and even restore our relationship. Who knows...
I'm glad you're doing better and that this site is helping. Just remember "what's best for the girls?". They need an emotionally healthy dad. As parents, we have to put physical and mental health first. Your mental health must be a priority.